(Closed) Guest wearing cream-coloured dress

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I wouldn’t wear it.  As the bride I’m not sure I would really care much.  But as a guest I always think it’s poor manners when other guests wear white, ivory of cream.

Post # 4
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I dislike it and wouldn’t recommend it. Even if you don’t have intention of upstaging the bride, you never know what she or other people might think…I say if there is a doubt, don’t wear it.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Personally, as a guest, I wouldn’t wear a dress color that looked similar to the bride’s. As guests, there are so many options to choose from whereas a traditional bride really only gets to pick from a few choices in the white/ivory family. However, if the bride is wearing a significantly different color (Offbeat Brides featured a bride in red that wanted all her guests in white recently) then I think cream is okay.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think if there’s any question about whether or not it should be worn then it should just not be worn. I think I would give some strange looks to someone wearing a cream dress at a wedding. Sure, it’s not white, but it’s still too close.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t mind if the mother of the bride or groom wears something in ivory like Diane Keaton’s character did in the Father of the Bride, it was elegant but didn’t upstage her daughter.  However, I really think that as a guest it’s not appropriate and would suggest something else.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I wouldn’t care at all, personally. If people show up wearing white, off white, or any variation thereof, I’d not have a problem with it.

Your bride friend might be weird about it though, as it seems many people don’t like it. If you’re close with her, I would call and make sure it’s okay. Otherwise, maybe wear something else (as much as I hate to say that).

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think this is getting silly, myself. I mean, I think it would be rude for you to show up in a wedding dress. A solid white dress might make me think you were a little clueless (but I wouldn’t consider it rude unless you had clearly done it to upset the bride). But apparently the ban is now white, ivory, and cream. Probably pale yellow is next on the chopping block, or maybe lighter beiges.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Maybe you can pair it with a brightly colored cardigan? How well do you know the bride? Who cares what the other guests think, only care what the bride/groom think! 🙂 If you have any doubts, it’s better to be safe than sorry, though.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, i dont care what people wear to a wedding. No one will get you confused with the bride unless you are in a gown. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I never really worried about this before, but last weekend Darling Husband and I went to a wedding. I had 2 dresses to choose from: one was a navy blue wrap dress and the other was a black dress with white flowers on it. Darling Husband was appauled that I would think of wearing a dress with any white on it. He was so funny. I never thought guys even thought of this stuff, especially him being the uber-masculin hunter, fisherman type guy.

We got to the wedding and 3 women out of a guest list of 40 were in white or white-ish dresses.

One was a knee length off white lace dress 

One was in a white floral patterned dress (ok)

The other was in a vintage white tea length dress, which totally could have been worn as a wedding dress.

Only the one with the floral pattern would be anything I’d even consider wearing as a guest.

I don’t know what the bride thought, but I heard several comments from guests about the inappropriatness of 2 out of the 3 girls. I would be so embarrassed.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I think we have created an artificial hysteria over wearing anything even close to white. If you are super concerned, call the bride. I wouldn’t have cared, and I would tell my own friends and family if the criticized someone who wore cream to my wedding that theyare being overly judgmental. I’d tell them that I was offended that they thought that person came anywhere close to lookinglike the bride while I was the one standing there in some 3 or 4 thousand dollars worth of clothing, hair, makeup, and jewelry.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

If you think it would bother you if someone did it at your wedding, don’t do it. If you think it would bother the bride, even a teeny tiny bit, don’t do it. If you think other guests would consider it tacky on your part, don’t do it.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

At the last wedding I attended, there were FOUR women wearing white sundresses. Not white with patterns – plain white. No one seemed offended and no one could confuse them with the bride.

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