(Closed) Guest wearing the same color as the bridesmaids

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do you think about guests wearing the same colors as the bridesmaids?
    I think it's cute : (3 votes)
    3 %
    No, I want my bridesmaids to be the only ones wearing my color : (12 votes)
    11 %
    I don't really care. : (92 votes)
    82 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Unless the color the bridesmaids are wearing is really unusual, I think its bound to happen.  The bridesmaids look like bridesmaids, so it wouldn’t bother me if a guest is wearing the same color.  

    Post # 4
    2214 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think it’s fine.  I would say that most people probably wouldn’t know what color the bridesmaids are wearing until they get to the wedding, so it would just be a coincidence anyways.

    Post # 5
    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    I’m not quite sure why it would be an issue.

    Post # 6
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Honestly I wouldn’t care, nor do I really see any reason to, especially when you look at the history of bridesmaids and why they came to be in the first place. The weddings I have attended in the past, it happens all the time because there isn’t any way to tell what they will be wearing beforehand, and even the folks who get upset over the slightest breach of etiquette have never mentioned a word about it when it does happen. With the new wave of everyone wearing black these days, there’s no way to avoid it. If someone honestly can’t tell the difference between the women up front standing for the duration of the ceremony with a bouquet from a guest in the audience, then they can’t be helped unfortunately. Most people are much smarter than that but for some unknown reason, people at large tend to think that all intelligence goes out the window the second that the word “wedding” is mentioned and thus don’t know how to act at all, which could not be further from the truth in reality. 

    Post # 7
    3226 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Do you mean you are telling your guests to wear the same color as your BM? Or do you have a problem with someone wearing the same color?

    I think its a bit much if everyone wore the same color

    Post # 8
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    I honestly don’t mind. But my BMs are wearing navy and a friend of mine, although she loves the colour and keeps finding beautiful navy dresses, refuses to wear it herself as a guest. I keep telling her it’s fine, but she’s adamant!

    Post # 9
    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I don’t think the it’d bother me if a guest wears the wedding color due to coicidence, etc., but it does bother me when someone purposefully tries to match to stand out somehow or something.   It’s their mentality that bothers me more than the actual wearing the color that bothers me.

    Post # 10
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I don’t really see how the guests would know what color the bridesmaids are wearing! It’s no big deal to me…basically, as long as they don’t show up in head-to-toe white I couldn’t care less what the guests are wearing! 🙂

    Post # 12
    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I really don’t see how/why it would be an issue. Your average wedding guest probably doesn’t know what color your BMs are wearing. Plus, there are so many shades of blue/pink/red/green/etc that no one would notice (or care.)

    Post # 13
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    @yrret107, technically according to proper etiquette (which many people don’t care about anymore and use the excuse of saying that it is really outdated tradition so they can get away with not following it), it is considered a faux pas to dress in the same color as the bride or bridesmaid. However, there is no way to know what color the bridesmaids are wearing if the person is a guest. The only reason a guest should be asking what colors the bridesmaids are wearing is so that they can pick something else. But there are some people who do everything in their power to take the spotlight away from where it should be and put it on themselves and it only reflects badly on them as a result. Most people though don’t need anyone to hold their hand in deciding on something to wear as most weddings are semi-formal by default unless mentioned otherwise, which translates to Sunday Best or Business Casual. Tell them business casual (if your wedding is semi-formal)  if they ask since that is really all they need to know.  

    Post # 14
    6573 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i would love it if everyone showed up in our color! i picked it because i love it. my friends know me, and i wouldn’t be surprised if they showed up in our color because they know it would make me happy.

    Post # 16
    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    @Ember- “If someone honestly can’t tell the difference between the women up front standing for the duration of the ceremony with a bouquet from a guest in the audience, then they can’t be helped unfortunately.”

    Couldn’t the same thing be said about wearing white though? And it’s still considered a huge faux pas.


    Personally, I’d prefer people not to wear the same color as my bridesmaids but that’s because I’ll be wearing the same color in a lighter hue.  That said, it’s a popular color so I wouldn’t be surprised and won’t really care if it happens(similarly I won’t care if someone wears white because I won’t be).  Though, one of my relatives wanted to know my colors so they could match and that’s just weird -_-

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