Post # 1
So, I know this is so minor potatoes in the story of life, but it kind of irked me.
A little background: one of my oldest friends (we’ve known each other for 18+ years), is getting married this May and has also asked me to do a reading at her ceremony.
I’ve been with my SO for almost 2 years, and we’ve been living together for half a year now, but his name was not included on the invite. Instead, the invitation was addressed to “DomesticDiva and Guest”
I’m chocking it up to ease of addressing, but it still seems kind of funny to me. I tend to read too much into things, though (BAD habit!). Does it seem weird to you?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t read too much into it. Someone may have been helping with the addressing of the invites and maybe didn’t know. These mix ups happen amid all the craziness of putting a wedding together
Post # 4
So true about someone helping. A friend fogot to include my now husband; was just an oversight with someone helping address the invites, because at her shower, she said she hoped we both could come to the wedding (she had to send the invites late because she wanted to have her party at their new home, but they hadn’t closed at the time of her shower!).
Post # 5
@dkacerek: Eep! Now that’s an oversight.
Yeah, you guys are probably right. Though, they printed the address labels; it wasn’t like someone else was helping to hand write them out and accidentally missed something.
Post # 6
It is impolite to refer to someone as “+ Guest”. But I think you should just let it go. But definitely respond with the correct spelling of his name.
Post # 7
@andielovesj: Oh, I’m definitely not going to talk to her about it. But yes, I will definitely include his full name in the response! Thanks for the reminder. 🙂
Post # 8
Wow I am happy that I read this…I am going to be in the phase of picking out invitations and I was probably going to have my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor address them! It is easier to just put “and guest”, but it does make it more personal and friendly to put the SO’s name down. Just a minor oversight, but we have to remember that the “and guest” person is a real person with feelings too so why not acknowledge them by their name!
Post # 9
@DomesticDiva: don’t read into it, even though it is poor etiquette she likely was doing it in a rush and didn’ve have time to double check his name with you. We definitely did this on some invites and I was not happy to do it, but we needed to get our list in and didn’t have time to wait for replies. Most were on FI’s side so I blame him for being annoyingly lazy about it!
Post # 10
It might have been a case of “bride brain” and she couldn’t remember how to spell his name or something, and opted to go with “& guest” rather than making a mistake? I would give her the benefit of the doubt, in any case.
Post # 11
It would irk me as well. But I would let it slide. I recently learned that not everyone understands this kind of etiquette.
Post # 12
I tried to include all of my guests’ guests’ full names for this exact reason. I got an “and guest” once when my husband and I were engaged and didn’t like it, so I tried not to do that to any of my guests whose SOs’ names I knew. 🙂
Post # 13
All she had to do was look on Facebook to find his name. Or at the Christmas card I sent her and her fiance (which was addressed to both of them ;)). So, it’s not like the information wasn’t available.
@Gemstone: Man, forgetting a Fiance is even less cool. Yay for thinking of it when you addressed yours!
@yellowshoe: Yes, so true. I think you’ve nailed it, actually.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t read too much into it too. It’s just easier sometimes to do that. My fiancee’s invitation to his brother’s wedding came the same way even though we had been together for three years at that point. I didn’t think anything of it.
Post # 15
Yeah this happened to me at a wedding I was a bridesmaid in. My now-FI and I had been together for 3 years and living together for 1. She had let her mother address the invites, and her mom decided to put & guest for all of the bridesmaids even though our partner’s names were on the list. It was bizarre, but it didn’t mean anything. Our STD and thank you note were both addressed to us.
Post # 16
While it is kind of irksome, I agree with everyone else, and say don’t let it get to you too much. It was probably a matter of rushing and not wanting to make a mistake on names of people they don’t know as well. 🙂