- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
How do you leave? You take a big breath and rip off that bandaid. Pack your car full of the stuff you want and drive away. You. Just. Leave. Understand that it will hurt, you will feel so many conflicting emotions and your conditioned instincts will tell you to return. Stand strong. Don’t drag it out, and repeat your self serving and empowering mantra every day as often as you need to so you can stay strong.
You’ve worked way to hard to elevate yourself to be dragged down by this guy. Good luck, girl. You can do it.
In my case my SO (of 4 years at this point) had a hard time saying no to people and was very codependent on his friends. He literally would not make plans without asking them what they were doing, every single day. I refuse to date someone that isn’t independent anymore.
You plan on marrying a man that calls you “socially retarded” and a “loser without friends”? This in my opinion is the real issue here. Forget Emma, you don’t owe her an invite but know that could cause issue if you continue to associate with her and her circle of friends.
I’m glad that you took a stand.
It’s not hard to see why you are still with this man considering the terrible advice your mother is giving you and what a bad role model her own marriage seems to be.
No, it’s not normal for a Fiance or a H to call you a bitch, to mock you and to put you down with insults. OP, this is as good as it gets with this man. After you’re married, there is not even one doubt that it will only get worse.
While I am so sorry you don’t have the full support of your family, you are never in too deep. Walk away or move out and cancel the wedding. It’s just money. This is your life and you’re worth so much more.
The Emma thing pales in comparison but you keep talking as if Emma planned this whole thing. For all you know she had nothing to do with it. As others say, it could have been discussed and in the works for awhile. It could even be a surprise party. You criticized her for getting her friends to send out the invitation, but actually, it’s entirely appropriate for someone other than the guest of honor to host.
Without knowing the details I think you may have jumped to some unfair conclusions on that score.
Id rather have no friends then these kind of friends. What bitches
Also your Fiance is an ass. I have social anxiety and my husband talks me through every single tiny anxiety..if he called me retarded Id be gone
Eta: i just read your update and am so amazingly proud of you for knowing you need to leave. There is NO SHAME in leaving an asshole
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