Post # 31
I would just go with an option you guys think is suitable and leave it be. They cannot expect places or events like a wedding to accomodate them to that degree. If anything, they should know their requests are above the norm and they should have plans to make sure they eat prior or find a way to eat what they are served.
Post # 32
I think you’re worrying too much about that. Yes it’s frustrating to pay for meals they won’t eat, but you don’t check in with every single one of your guests to see if they would eat the meal you’ll be having at your wedding. You just serve the meal and they figure it out themselves.
You said in your original post that you have some ideas on how to accommodate them. If you think it’s not too much trouble, then I would share that with your venue. But definitely just tell your guests that you’ll keep their preferences in mind and don’t involve them anymore in the decision making.
Post # 33
I had vegetarians, someone with a gluten allergy and someone else with a nut allergy. One other person said they didn’t like gravy, any chance it could be left off their dish? I sent the requests to the venue and they said told me which of the meal options were suitable for each of the people and I let them know. No complaints.
I myself am allergic to nightshades. Tomatoes, peppers, chillis, etc… It’s the worst allergy ever (IMO) and almost impossible for most places to cater for; I’ll eat anything that’s not going to kill me, even stuff I hate. My friends have almost always catered for my allergy but if they couldn’t I’d just take sandwiches.
Give your guests carrot sticks. Done.
Post # 34
Thanks for all of the sympathy bees! It’s reassuring to know that this would drive others crazy too! I’m still feeling torn about the best course of action. The soba noodle dish won’t fly as if she had to pick around what she doesn’t like she would be stuck with only having mango to eat. Same with the roasted eggplant dish. Maybe a falafel plate with tabbouleh salad and hummus? Or a dish with glass noodles, edamame, and tofu?
Post # 35
pennyk: I think people who have a lot of preference issues are better taken care of with dishes that are very much “sectioned” i.e. grilled tofu with sauteed veggies and steamed rice.. none of these items touching each other, so they can eat around it easily. It’s the same as if you were feeding a picky 2 year old. Because honestly, they’re behaving just as bad as one.
from your interaction with them so far I can PROMISE you they will complain no matter what you do. That’s just who these people are. EVEN if they talk to your caterer directly (OMFG I can’t believe they said that) I promise you they’ll be upset on the day of and grumble about it.
Accepting they are going to be annoying SOBs will make handling them easier, as you will stop trying to please them and start trying to simply minimize their ability to annoy you.
Also, FWIW, when I was vegan (and perhaps gluten free too, at the time, i can’t remember that detail) and I went to a wedding I simply packed myself a dinner. The caterer knew ahead of time and so I just gave it to them at the beginning of the reception and they brought it out for me as others were being served. Blamo, easy peasy. Obviously it’s different because I told the bride that’s what I wanted to do, as I didn’t want to be a burden.. but the thing is, IMO your food preferences are your own headache, not anyone elses.
Post # 36
Geez, I wondered what wedding guests ate back in the days before so much dietary restrictions existed?
Post # 37
it sounds like they do not eat nightshades, but I do not think you need to cater to this. I don’t eat lots of things. I pick out what I do and deal with it.
Post # 38
I can’t believe they eat dairy.
Post # 39
Lol wow they want to call your venue and dictate what’s being severed? That’s bold? You are trying to be accommodating and I find how they are acting is rude. Id tell them that they are Shit outta luck and they Will have to deal with the choices offered to them. Obviously phrase it nicer.
Post # 40
I would tell them they are welcome to bring their meal (I would not count them in my head count if that is the case), or they can be provided with a vegan and gluten free option and that the venue can adhere to their dietary *restrictions* not personal (picky ass, leave this out of cousre haha) perferences beyond that.
Post # 41
Dang, they are ballsy for sure! I have never asked anyone to accommodate dietary preferences. I would offer what you want to offer and leave it at that. I would feel differently if it was something allergy related, but this appears just to be picky, picky, picky.
Post # 42
knickergold: I’m dying at “Uncle Sue.” 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Post # 43
Send them these videos.
Then tell them you will provide a gluten free vegetarian option, and it is up to them to eat it or not. Honestly, what are these people subsisting on?
Post # 44
Gluten-free? Fine. Vegetarian/vegan? Fine. No nightshades???? Uh . . . . what do they eat? Seriously. If your dietary needs are THAT far out the mainstream, you just gotta take responsibility for yourself.
Post # 45
pennyk: honestly they are the ones being jerky and as others have said giving all of us who are vegan or veggie a bad name. all your options sound lovely. some veggie catering at weddings is ‘wow’ sometimes it’s ‘meh’ – but ain’t that the case whatever’s on the plate meat or otherwise?! As a veggie I let hosts know. I’m not crazy on wildly spicy things but who cares – eat the bits you like. Just let them know meals to suit their allergies or ethics will be available and if they are fearful they won’t like it let them know they are free to bring their own snacks.