Post # 1
I need some opinions on my current wedding "dilemma" as I’m not sure what to do.
My fiances friend recently got married this past summer. We weren’t invited to their ceremony, but they ended up having a reception a few months later that my fiance was invited to but I couldn’t attend because I had previous plans. His friend recently posted pictures from their wedding on myspace the other day and being the wedding obsessed engaged woman I am I took a look. Well I found out that my fiances friends now wife wore the EXACT same wedding dress that I plan on wearing. I am in love with my dress but once I saw that she had already worn it to her wedding my heart sank a little. I had yet to see someone else where my dress, and now a future guest at my own wedding will have already worn it.
I guess my question for you ladies is… would it be wrong for me to wear the same dress.. given our weddings will be about a year apart? Do you think she would be offended seeing me in the same dress? I’ve actually never met her before so I don’t know what she’ll think.
Now I’m wondering if I should purchase a new dress as to not offend anyone.
This is a picture of my dress.
Post # 3
OMG hunny, don’t even worry about it. Designers make more than one, so there’s bound to be more than one girl wearing it. She had her day, now it’s yours! If the dress makes you feel gorgeous and you love it, then wear it.
Post # 4
Go for it! You bought the dress because you love it right?
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA
I would not worry about it a bit. It’s not like you could have known, nor will every single guest from her wedding be attending your wedding. (To be honest if I went to a wedding today and saw the bride wearing the same dress as a wedding I went to a year ago, I probably wouldn’t even notice! I’d probably just think it was similar, if I even noticed the similarity at all.) You have never even met her, so it certainly wasn’t intentional. She’ll probably actually be excited to see someone else have such wonderful taste 🙂
Post # 6
You love your dress and that is what is important, put it out of your mind! Don’t worry about it IF she’s offended that’s her problem. Also just because she wore that dress doesn’t make it any less your dress, if you love it and it gave you that wonderful, this is my dress feeling, then that’s what’s important, its YOUR DRESS!
Post # 7
You picked the dress. You loved it. You should keep it!
The only person that will even notice is the bride who wore it to her wedding, and I definitely don’t think she’ll be offended (it just means you both have good taste!). You obviously didn’t copy her (you didn’t even go to her wedding, so she won’t even know that you’ve seen her dress), and you should stick with the dress you picked out. Some elements of your wedding are inevitably going to be like someone else’s wedding, so don’t worry about it!
Post # 8
I would feel flattered if someone else wore the same dress. Don’t worry about it AT ALL!! Your dress is gorgeous!
Post # 9
Thanks so much ladies! I feel so much better. I think if it wasn’t me with this dilemma I would have given the same advice. Thanks for bringing me back some sanity! 🙂
Post # 10
i’m with everyone else… KEEP THE DRESS! And I must say… it’s GORGEOUS!!
But if for any reason, this little dilemma starts to bother you again, think of putting little personal touches to your dress. Two of my gfs (one from TX and one from VA) had the same dress and got married a year apart. They know each other only through me and have only met once. They weren’t at each others’ weddings, but they saw the photos through me of each others’ weddings! The one that got married the year after decided to add a sash and a broach to her dress to make it slightly different but it still came out terrific!
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm
I agree keep it! It would be so weird if she were offended that you both liked and bought the same dress. And chances are most of your guests didn’t go to her wedding so it will be new them, and unless you are doing the same hair, same accessories, and have a very similar shape, you’ll be able to make it your own. I think it’s a great dress, definitely a keeper.
Post # 12
Keep the dress definitely. Make it different by using another type of veil or hair ornament and maybe some colored shoes and different type of bouquet.
Each bride imho makes her look her own. Each day is unique, no wedding exactly alike.
Dont worry about anything!
Post # 13
I think its completely fine. It’s not like your sister/close friend wore the same dress. It’s someone you’ve never even met before! It is a beautiful dress!
Post # 14
The dress is beautiful! You should definitely wear it. All it means is that there will be a woman at your reception that has as good of taste as you do!!!!
Post # 15
Definitely don’t change your dress. Where it because you love it!
Post # 16
That dress is beautiful! And I’m sure she won’t care… after all she picked it because it was a beautiful dress for her too. She will probably think you’re awesome to have the same dress as her. Wear it proudly!