Post # 1
I’ve never really wanted a guest book at the ceremony.. I think they are nice.. but Ive been planning to have a wishing well type guest box set up in the reception hall where people write wishes or advice on special paper.. so i can scrapbook with them later.
At my final meeting with the coordinator, she thought it was bad to not have a guest book because that is what keeps people busy as the ushers seat them when they arrive…
Should I listen to her and just have both? We have about 125 guests coming.. i dont know if that makes a difference.
Post # 3
My $.02 is to skip it. We’re not having one either. Besides, what do people do with a book of names after the wedding?
Post # 4
I’m having a guestbook at my reception. You don’t need one at the ceremony.
Post # 5
I love the idea of the wishing well, I think that would keep guests busy enough beforehand, that would take the place of a guest book. As your guests will be writing out their best wishes to you on those, then I would think that having a separate guest book would be asking them to duplicate it.
Post # 6
We were going to skip this altogether… BUT, we were at Barnes and Noble last weekend and found this gorgeous coffee table book of the National Parks of the US.
We bought the book and then decided that we’d have everyone sign it on one of the pictures of their favorite National Park with their favorite memory of that park. When we visit that park, we are going to sign and date the picture and include the map of the park in the book. Then we’ll send postcards with our new favorite memory from that park to the guests who said it was their favorite.
This makes signing the guest book more purposeful and keeps the connection between us and them after the signing.
If you are doing something that is meaningful to you (wishing well), and that gets you excited… then it seems that you don’t need a guestbook. Won’t people be just as busy filling out their wishes as they would be signing a guestbook? I think you are fine, as long as you are happy!
Post # 7
I am having a concern with this because we’ve invited my church and my parents church to attend the ceremony only and the cocktail hour at the ceremony venue, and those people won’t be attending the reception…and I’d like to have them sign some sort of guestbook (or at least have the opportunity).
If that’s not the case, however, I can’t imagine having a guest book at the ceremony is necessary.
Post # 8
I’m doing the cards dropped in to a pretty glass container – I guess that is the same thing as the wishing well. I’m going to make the pretty flower pens and have "pots" of them around so that they can write a note, not just their name. I saw somewhere – Martha maybe? – where they had little envelopes to put the cards in and then after the wedding, you glue the envelopes in a book – front side down – and you can pull them out later to look at? Or I will take them and make a collage with random pictures from the wedding and frame them – that way everyone can see them when they come over!
Post # 9
I love the idea of a wishing tree. I also will not do the traditional guestbook, but I’m not traditional!
I love this
Post # 10
No guestbook here either, we are including pieces of fabric with our invitation and having people decorate them and then bring them to the wedding so that we can later make into a quilt. Even those who are unable to attend the wedding will still have the opportunity to send us their well wishes.
Post # 11
@lilcfitness: I love the wishing well idea; very cute!
I don’t think you need to have a guestbook right before the ceremony. Everyone will be talking, making comments on how lovely the venue is, looking at the program if you have one, etc. so having a guest book just to occupy the time isn’t necessary, in my opinion. Plus, only one person (or two if they get cosy) can sign a book at the same time, anyway.
Perhaps you could have the Wishing Well table before the ceremony, and again at the reception for folks who didn’t get a chance to before?