Post # 1
I have been trying to sit down with Mr. E and nail downa guest list, I know our wedding isnt until next May, but I feel like I just want a rough estimate of guests so we can financially plan… Everytime I try to talk to him about it he says “oh, you know who”.. but the thing is… i DONT know who! He doesnt want to offend anybody by not inviting them so he said I should talk to his mother about it. But i dont really want his mom having a whole lot to do with our wedding decisions. (we have had a lot of rough patchers with her and i would like to have a stress free wedding!) it is just so frustrating! I know he is excited about the wedding, but he ust keeps saying “i trust you, you know what will be good”… I do like having the control, but I would like a liiittle more input.
Is anybody else having a hard time with this? what can i do?!
Post # 3
You should talk to his mother about it. Either give her a set number of guests to invite, or tell her you want a “wish list” of everyone who should be invited to the wedding. Have your mother do the same. The two of you then write one for your friends you’d like to invite, and voila, there is your beginning guest list. You can then tweak from there, if need be.
Post # 4
If he doesn’t want to make a list then put together all his friends that you know he would want to invite and then let him see if anyone is missing. As far as family, my Mother-In-Law gave me a list of 30 or so people, mostly all distant relatives so we made it clear they all couldn’t be invited and not to invite anyone herself until the guest list was final. It all depends on your relationship with Future Mother-In-Law though, it can be tricky!
Post # 5
get ur friends on a list. tell ur parents to write down their list. then depending on how many guests ur parents invite. try to give ur future inlaw the same respect by allowing close to the same number of spots and then tell ur fiance if he wants people there he better start working. lol 😉 sarcasm.. make sure all ur fiances important friends take priority then mil list though..