(Closed) Guestlist woes

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Aw, that sucks! I’d be upset too if I were you, especially if you’re getting somewhat flimsy excuses. But I don’t think you and your FI should play the “what if we picked a different date/venue/etc” game because there’s really no way of predicting guest responses. Just try and focus on the good – you’ll still be having the wedding you want and you’ll be able to celebrate with friends and family! 

Post # 4
Member
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@RobinBananas:  Sorry, OP! That’s rough, I’d be bummed too–especially the “we have to look at houses that weekend,” UGH! =(

I hope this post was cathartic for you–posting on here always help me feel better. And remember – there will still be people there who love and support you, and would drop anything to be celebrate with you on that day. Anyone who wouldn’t do that, IMO, isn’t worth being upset over. It’s just something to take note of the next time they need you to be there for them…!

Post # 5
Member
2955 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@RobinBananas:  I feel for you because I’d feel sad about it too:( however having a destination wedding is always going to be risky. I’m sure most people really do want to come but these weddings can be really expensive and that’s the only reason why I wouldn’t be able to attend them!

Post # 6
Member
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

D’aww!  You will be able to spend more time with those who are there, which is great.  But I do understand being hurt.  Don’t play the what-if game, just enjoy your beautiful intimate wedding 🙂

Post # 7
Hostess
12103 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

awww.  this is my biggest fear, we’re having a semi-destination as well and I’m terrified that everyone is going to say they can’t come.  I’m sure you will still have an amazing day 🙂 hopefully you can celebrate with the other friends at a later date

Post # 8
Member
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@RobinBananas:  I don’t think you would be as upset if people were not providing some really sill reasons. I don’t think anyone should provide a reason if they are just choosing to not attend for something like house hunting. Ugh. The people who really want to be there will be there, so it will be great I’m sure!

Post # 9
Member
11274 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m sorry that so many of your friends have indicated that they cannot attend.  However, I agree with @ImmaBee: that you really can’t second guess yourself about the date and location at this point and with @bridinmt: that an unexpected benefit of this situation is that you’ll have more time to interact with the guests who are there.

As for the excuses you’ve been receiving, I would chalk that up to the fact that some guests feel obligated to provide a reason when they decline, and some hosts try to solicit one.  However, you should not ask for a reason.  It’s never wrong for a guest to decline an invitation politely and without providing a reason. 

I hope you have a wonderful wedding in spite of this situation!

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