- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
We’re sending out our STD’s this week and I’m still stressed about our guest list.
My fi’s parents are both divorced and re-married. We have a $8k budget for our wedding and his mom/step-dad gave us $5k for the wedding, so almost the entire wedding. His mom is also splitting the rehearsal dinner cost with his dad ($500) but that’s the only money his dad is putting into the wedding.
To keep within our budget we don’t want more than 100 guests. His parents had over 50 people on their guest list (no family) originally. I emailed my fi’s step-mom and asked her to cut down on her list, which she did and we got it down to 33 family friends on his side. But, his step-mom/dad are still inviting people I don’t know and they refuse to cut them because they are their best friends and said they would be offended if they weren’t invited. We want them to cut more, especially since they aren’t paying for the wedding and I had to make sacrifices on my side to cut down the #.
My fi’s mom cut one couple (against her will) but refuses to cut more. My fi doesn’t want to talk to her about it because the people she invited we’re close to (we’re closer to his mom/stepdad than his dad/step mom) and she’s paying for the wedding. His mom already has more invited so I also don’t feel like I can cut more from his dad’s side even if they aren’t helping with the wedding.
We’re at 127 people invited on the A-list now (we have a b list but we’re not really going to send out to them unless we are REALLY below 100 but I doubt it) but I’m still worried that we could end up with 110-115 which adds up.
What should I do? Is 127 too much? Is it fair to let my fi’s mom invite more since she’s paying for the wedding? We thought about asking his dad to pitch in if they want their friends to come, his father/step-mom have a lot of money, his dad is just a very very cheap man.