(Closed) Guestlist woos

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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13251 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

A budget is a budget – if 127 is going to set you over, then it’s too much.  I think you need to sit down with your FI’s mom (or have him to do it) and tell her that you just can’t have that many people.  Have her cut down the number, or tell her you and your Fiance will go through and cut down the number to get it to where your budget needs it to be.

You can also put this off a bit by only sending Save-The-Date Cards to the guests you absolutely know you’ll invite, plus any that would have to make travel arrangements to get to the wedding. 

Post # 4
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79 posts
Worker bee

If it was me I would just invite people me and the Mr want there, they may be paying some of it but that is a gift to you it does not mean you should invite any of their friends…to be kind I would say you can bring 4 people per couple…but to be fair I’m not having anyone at my wedding who I don’t know or haven’t spoken to in the last year.

Post # 5
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569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Can you share your capacity limits with each party and tell them that each person added over your set number will cost money you don’t have? Maybe say they are welcome to invite them if they cn chip in X dollars per extra guest?

Post # 6
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1608 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

First, go easy on the Save-The-Date Cards.  You do not need Save-The-Date Cards, and you certainly dont need them for everyone.  Buy yourself some time.

Post # 7
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Pay for the wedding yourselves and then you can have 100% control over the guest list. When mom is paying the vast majority of the cost of the wedding, she probably feels like she should have the vast majority of the guests.

I don’t think it’s appropriate for you to ask someone to pay for your wedding. If they wanted to contribute, they would have offered. It’s not about being cheap. It’s not their wedding. You’ll probably get a nice gift.

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