Post # 1
So I am in the process of putting together our guest list and trying to keep it as small as possible. With that in mind, I have a couple of guest questions….
Family-My dad and step mother were married for about 15 yrs and now have been divorced for 5 but it almost like they are still together(trust me its very weird). My ex-step mother has a HUGE family, I was invited to one of the cousins weddings. I am not very close with them, that side of the family is more out of sight, out of mind. I’m sure if I didn’t invite them it would hurt their feelings, however they can’t remember my FIs name and always ask him for it if there is a family function where they will see him. Do I need to invite the 20 extra people?
Friends-If someone invited you to their wedding, do you have to invite them to yours? I mean we haven’t spoken to each other since her wedding. We were friends all through out school.
I don’t know. Any advise would be nice!! 🙂
Post # 3
So, I think I’m reading your post correctly. You want to know if you are obligated to invite your ex-stepmother’s family to the wedding. Unless you’re close with them or you think it would offend your ex-stepmom, I wouldn’t invite them. Are you still close to your ex-stepmom?
As for friends, you’re under no obligation to invite someone just because you were invited to their wedding. Everyone has different budgets, venue/space restrictions, etc. So, unless you really want her there, don’t invite her!
Post # 4
I think if you’re keeping it small then you don’t need to feel guilty about leaving out those 20. The friend, well, meh… How long ago was her wedding? if it’s a couple years and you haven’t had any contact since then I wouldn’t bother.
Post # 5
No, you don’t have to invite any of those people. Just make sure you say, “we’re having a small wedding,” to anybody and everybody, and they’ll just have to understand.