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PREAMBLE: This is my very first post on here *waves at Bees*, although I have been reading the threads for years, and decided to sign up now that we’re planning our wedding. We’re keeping things completely quiet for now because we haven’t finalized our guest list and don’t want to raise hopes, so this site has saved me from going insane: you all must understand how it feels to be planning a wedding and having to keep quiet about it!!!
Now on to the subject: The idea crossed my mind today, and after reading several old threads on here about various “Guests and Facebook” dilemmas, I feel it makes a lot of sense.
I’m addicted to Facebook (I’m that mamarazzi Friend who uploads albums with 200 photos at a go) and in my opinion, there is no such thing as a “bad photo”- that’s just what the camera captured!!! I feel the guests’ photos can provide a fresh angle that the photogs couldn’t catch so I’ll be happy to see everything they post from our wedding.
What I don’t want is people posting photos of me in my dress to Facebook BEFORE I DO SO.
(In fact, I think it’s a shame that I’ll have to be off Facebook the whole morning and afternoon, and probably evening too. FI has told me already that I cannot have my phone with me at the wedding, because he knows what I’ll be doing under the table during speeches hehe)
So what do you think of the bride uploading a photo of herself all dressed up right before the ceremony?
P.S: We’ll be getting married legally (i.e. before the government authorities with two witnesses) on the day before the religious ceremony, so that rules out the horrible scenario where the bride takes a photo of herself, uploads it with a comment like “In a few minutes I’ll be a Mrs!!!!” and then walks out only to find her groom has stood her up lol. I’d technically already be a Mrs. before the photo is taken.
Long first post- I apologise!
Post # 3
@Asichka: I just realised this is in the wrong section arrgh!!!!
Post # 4
I think that will ruin the surprise for a lot of your guests (and possibly husband), if they’re as into social media as you are. Don’t you want the first time your guests see you be when you walk down the isle? Not on some mediocre iphone photo they saw on facebook? Just a thought.
Post # 5
@sillygoat: Hehe…. how about I get around that by uploading it right before I step into the ceremony?
It’s considered sacrilegous here to be fidgeting with your phone anyway (well, unless to take a photo if at a wedding, but we intend to have an announcement that no photos be taken during the ceremony) after a religious ceremony has started, so if I posted it a few seconds before everyone turned to look at the bride walking down the aisle…..
BTW, FI is not on FB and has no interest in it, but he’ll know what I look like in the dress because I’m having it made and he’ll be with me when I go for fittings and the like. What he’ll not see beforehand is the complete look- hair and makeup.
Post # 6
Haha, I guess you could do that!
Post # 8
@Asichka: I certainly wouldn’t, but I get the no photos before me thing.
Im having an unplugged wedding, and also spreading by WOM that it’s not okay to post any photos to facebook. Reception photos of you and Aunt Mavis? Sure. Photo of us dancing? No. Hell to the no. They are my special moments to share, and I will when we have professional photos back after our honeymoon.
I would have chosen a few answers if possible; it will ruin it for anyone on facebook; it will look kinda tacky; you wont want to be doing that right before you walk – you should be thinking of your husband at the end of the aisle; why ruin the gorgeous professional photos with a pic taken on someones phone just before your wedding? I see a lot of bees who are so amped to see and share their gorgeous photos after the day, its something to look forward to and be excited for. 🙂
Post # 9
Personally I feel that if you have no problem with facebook then who cares who posts a picture first? In the grand scheme of things it seems like a pretty trival thing to be worrying about.
Post # 10
@FutureMrsHallam: My only other option would be to pretend there were no FB photos before mine and only look to see what others may have posted/tagged me in after I post mine days (who am I kidding? *hours*) later.
Question is: Can I exercise such patience? lol
I understand and respect it when people don’t want me posting photos of them on Facebook, and nowadays when at social gatherings I deliberately take some photos only of friends who are on Facebook and whom I know wouldn’t mind me posting the photos later. If a non-FB friend suddenly jumped in to join in the photo, I warn them “This is going on Facebook later, you know?”
I’ve never had anyone opt out of the photo yet
Post # 11
@j_jaye: They say weddings bring out your worst qualities…. maybe deep down I like to be first
Post # 12
I just turned my tagging off so anything my guests posted wouldn’t be on my friends’ newsfeed or show up on my page.
Post # 14
Here’s my suggestions (without having read the updates/other posts):
(1) Approach your friend and tell her your concerns. A good friend will not go against your wishes, especially on your wedding day, and will refrain from posting photos that insant.
(2) There are profile settings where you have to approve every post that goes on your wall — use that, so nothing shows up even if she posts them.
(3) I really doubt your FI will be browsing Facebook right before the wedding.
Post # 15
To be honest, I don’t think it really matters if someone posts a picture before you. Believe me, you will have way more important things on your mind the day of.
Post # 16
Why does it matter if someone posts a picture of you in your dress before you do? In fact, it almost makes more sense that someone would post it before you…
I honestly doubt you’ll actually care on your wedding day. There are so many other things to be thinking about.