(Closed) Help: Guest(s) is/are asking for registry info

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@cutexkitty: Funny that you posted this, my Fiance is half Chinese and a friend of my mother made a comment about how all of his family will probably give us loads of money. I’m not Asian and it’s not a tradition that I’m familiar, and neither was my Fiance actually -he didn’t really grown up learning his culture so I’m not expecting anything!

I think I would go with your option 2,  “Thank you for asking. We opted not to register for specific gifts. If you choose to give us a gift, I’m sure whatever you pick will be just perfect and very much appreciated”, or something like that.  Option 1 is too vague in my opinion. If you have any non-Asian guests, they may not be familiar with the custom so you may want to consider registering for just a few items and maybe some gift cards; maybe look at Amazon, they have a ton of different gift cards (good as cash IMO). Also, you can get your Maid/Matron of Honor to maybe help “spread the word” that you prefer cash. I think it also helps if you are saving for somethign specific, like the money is going to help pay your honeymoon or saving for downpayment on a house. I feel better about giving cash if I know its going towards somethign specific.

 

Post # 4
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921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i agree with pp. register for something even it its a blender lol just think of little things you would like for the house. maybe some new pans? new dishes? a shower caddy lol

Post # 6
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cutexkitty: How about a honeymoon registry?

That way people can buy you excursions or activities for a honeymoon (which comes to you via a paypal account).

Post # 7
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I do think bed bath and beyond still offers a great return policy (a check) for items returned from the registry. That’s another possibility.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We are also chinese and have lived together for years now so our home is already all set up. Under the registry section we just put something along the lines of: we are already settled in our home and will not be registering.

We know the older generation who know the tradition of giving money wouldn’t even know what a registry is, so we aren’t worried about them. And as for our American/Americanized friends…well if they decide no registry=no gift at all then that’s fine with us. So long story short, I would go with something along the lines of #2.

Post # 8
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

double post

Post # 11
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@cutexkitty: But that’s ok. Anything people buy just comest o you as money in your paypal account. It doesn’t go to the resort to pay for a service or excursion, but your guests can feel like they are giving you a gift (rather than just a check).

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I like #2, but I think that since he ASKED, it would be fine (and even helpful) to add “but of course money is always appreciated!” onto the end.

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