Guests bailed week before

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
3727 posts
Sugar bee

It sucks, but life happens.

Dont let it get you down the week before the wedding!    Think about all the friends and family that will be there!

Post # 3
3381 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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rvrmtn10 :  it sucks when people last min. but given that they’re your co-wokers and you’re not super close, i’m also not suprised. it seems strange to me that you would invite not-super-close coworkers to your (fairly) initimately sized wedding when there were apparently other people clamoring to come? tbh, i really don’t understand what you mean by “we could have given someone who wanted to be there a spot” – like, do you have a waiting list for your wedding?

Post # 4
1203 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I assume you already paid for their meals so is there anyone you could have take their spot? Such as giving two other guests a plus one?

I had 2 people bail the day of due to illness so don’t be surprised if that happens. One lady brought her son in place of her husband so the meal didn’t go to waste. The other meal did go to waste.

Post # 5
7847 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

At least they told you! Bee, I had 2 people RSVP yes and then not show up. With no notice, no apology, nothing. Still, over a year later and I haven’t heard anything from them lol. 

Post # 6
2883 posts
Sugar bee

On the bright side, you may be able to offer their seats to someone else. Perhaps someone would like to bring a plus one or perhaps you’ve made a new friend since you sent inviations out?

Post # 7
614 posts
Busy bee

I had a family of 5 adults bail the day before. It’s definitely frustrating, I get it. Try your best not to focus on it too much.

Post # 8
1693 posts
Bumble bee

I had a family of 6 tell my father in law they wouldn’t be attending DURING THE CEREMONY.

Post # 9
7594 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I had two people bail 3 days before the wedding (after we’d already sent our final numbers to the caterer), and another 3-4 just no show on the day. It’s super annoying and inconsiderate but what can you do – this happens in almost all weddings.

Post # 10
1787 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

As somebody who has planned a lot of events, I usually plan for 5-15 percent attrition. Closer to 5 % for weddings. For a 65 person wedding, I’d expect 3-4 last minute bails. 

It sucks, but that’s life and super common. I’ve actually never seen a major event with 100% attendance.

Post # 11
9528 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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kristin36890 :  

OMG, people are just so insouciant and careless! I imagine it was  a kind of ” oh btw Joe, just    thought I’d  better tell you we are ducking  out  immediately after the ceremony  sorry about that , tell Sam and Susan hi …. ” 

All said in a hissing whisper….sotto voce one hopes . 

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