(Closed) Guests bringing babies to baby shower?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I don’t think him being there will take away any attention from, besides that of his mom who will be chasing after him. If you really don’t want children at your baby shower then I would just let them know that it not appropriate for the venue. Did your fmaily memebers offer any opinions on it?

Post # 5
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Does this cousin just want to bring her son because she wants to show him off or does she have a legitimate reason like no childcare or something? For me personally, I’d probably ask her to leave him home. The venue is not kid friendly and the event was not planned with children in mind. Regardless if it’s intended, kids DO steal the spot light especially when it’s close family members who may not see him very often. The day is supposed to be about you, not the kid in the corner who’s just learning to walk and doing cute stuff. 

Post # 7
1477 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It depends on so many things. Is your cousin’s child well behaved? My nephew would get into everything and his mother tends to look the other way and let him do whatever. I shudder to think what he would do to a fancy country club room (the last time he was at our house in the span of 40 min he opened all of our Christmas presents, pulled all of our daughter’s books off her bookshelves, ate several pieces of chocolate out of one of the presents, and attempted to pull the vertical blinds down). He also screams and cries when he doesn’t get his way (he’s 2). If having him there would be stressful and take away from everyone’s enjoyment, then I would just tell a little fib that you’ve told others no kids and you don’t want to create bad feelings bending the rules.

If your cousin’s baby is a little angel though, I don’t think it would hurt to have him there. People are still there to celebrate your baby, I don’t think his presence will take anything away from that.

Post # 8
46594 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would suggest that the venue and the event are not child friendly and ask her to find childcare.

She can ask a girlfriend to trade childcare if she can’t find a paid sitter. Time for both Grandma and her to learn that it is inappropriate to bring children to events to which they are not invited.

Post # 10
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If it were my baby shower I would kindly tell her the venue isn’t child appropriate, and that you’re sorry if that means one of them can’t make it. It may sound selfish but your baby shower is supposed to be about your baby, not someone elses! I would hate to have people cooing over this cute one year old when the focus of the day should be on you.

Post # 11
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

I would hate to be the Mom bringing my 1year old to a nice baby shower.  I wouldn’t have any fun!  As the Mom to be, it probably wouldn’t bother me as much.  As for your situation, I agree with a PP.  If her babysitter backed out or something, I would try to be understanding.  If you don’t want her to bring the baby, I would say the venue won’t allow children.  

Post # 12
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

@eryepye:  Just read that he is, what my Mom calls, “high spirited”, or very active!  I would say the venue won’t allow children. 

Post # 13
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Maybe it’s just me, but I always thought that kids/babies should come to a baby shower. Every baby shower I’ve been to had babies.

Post # 14
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

At the baby showers in our family, the older little girls go, but not usually babies or little boys.  I always see it as a bit of a break from my little ones.

Post # 15
2410 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve never been to a baby shower that didn’t have a few babies here or there so I do think it is one of the more kid friendly gatherings out there.

Post # 16
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I can’t remember a baby shower that didn’t have a couple little one’s running around at it. For me it wouldn’t bother me one bit.

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