Post # 1
Has anyone else heard on this before? This is news to me, our wedding was two weeks ago and people are still asking for registry info. I tell them dont worry about it but that causes more frustration for them 🙁 How long then should you keep a registry up for then?
I’m just always like to be prompt and buy gifts way before. :p
Post # 3
Leave it until the store takes it down. Most people won’t actually take a year to buy a gift though. If they ask just tell them.
Post # 4
I’ve heard of it for sure. But I thought it was a dying custom.
Post # 5
Yes, that’s the etiquette guideline and not a dying custom, but very, very few people will actually wait that long.
I’d just leave the registry up until store or website requires you to remove it, so that if people do ask, you can easily refer them to the registry.
Just be sure not to go by the myth that you have a year to write thank-you notes, though. The longest generally recommended is 3 months, but it’s much better to get them out within 8 weeks of receiving the gift.
Post # 6
That is what I have heard in the past as well.
Post # 7
I’ve heard that, but who actually does that? Everyone I know either gives a card or brings a gift to the wedding, not later.
Post # 8
That sounds crazy. Could someone supply and quote an authoritative reference for this?
Not “I heard”, not a bulletin board posting, but an authority. Because it sounds like made up etiquette to me, or something extremely regional.
Emily Post’s 1922 book talks about gifts usually being before the wedding: “If because of illness or absence, a present is not sent until after the wedding, a short note should accompany it, giving the reason for the delay“. http://www.bartleby.com/95/21.html
Post # 9
Can’t quote a source but I have heard it more than once. You’re also considered a bride for the entire year up until your first anniversary.
Post # 10
@asianbarbie: I don’t have a source, but I have heard that on many occassions. I think it’s super weird, personally, and would never wait that long myself. As for the registry- yeah, keep it up until the store takes it down. Unless they give you a discount when you “close it out” like at Babies R Us… then wait maybe 3 months, buy whatever you wanted to buy at the discount and close it.
Post # 11
@asianbarbie: I always thought this was weird and never heard of it before this site too! I feel like anytime past maybe a month is just super awkward. If a guest cant afford a gift at the time of the wedding I would hate to think they are scrapping and saving and worrying for a year about getting one ya know! I would tell them no worries too but it sounds like thats not what they wantto hear!
Post # 12
@paula1248: Emily Post begs to differ on the “one year rumor”. She says 3 months, which feels more correct (see my previous comment, posted before I read Emily’s take). Peggy echos the 3 month guideline.
Other wedding related (though not necesarrily etiquette related) sites reference the one year rule (The Knot, for instance), but point out that it’s an old one and with the dawn of internet shopping it doesn’t make sense anymore.
The point, though, is that this isn’t some weird Weddingbee rumor… it is something a much broader audience have heard and believe to be true.
Post # 13
That seems like something from another era, before fast shipping, Amazon, online registries, etc. Sometimes etiquette rules need an upgrade for modern times. Personally, I would think it’s weird to receive a gift more than a month after the wedding and I always make sure to either buy and ship a gift before the wedding or bring the gift/card to the wedding.
Post # 14
OK glad I’m not the only one and no I wamt thank you notes to be done asap after I move oversea s tomorrow, so prob In a few days.
Post # 15
I’ve heard that was the old rule. New one is 3 months.
Post # 16
I will gladly accept a wedding gift a year or even 2 years after the wedding 😉