(Closed) guests cancelling the week of the wedding

posted 8 years ago in March 2010
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Sorry to hear that. I dont understand people.  I had one couple turn in their RSVP card last week and said, I hate to say Yes on these things because you just never know what might come up.  So I’ll put yes and if that changes I’ll call your mom.

Really? I’m sorry but you don’t know if you can drive 5 hours out of town in 18 days or not?  Strange. Why not just check no and make it easier on all of us!?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we had that, but it was good reasons because of illness. we just decided to let it go and keep the seating chart as is. so what if there are a few empty seats at a table. that’s better than me having to stress out about the seating chart and changing up the escort cards.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@ vintage2010 – WOW! “because you just never know what might come up“… sooo, they basically said well if we’ve got nothing better to do we’ll come???  I would’ve told them not to bother.

Post # 6
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Gah!!!  That would frustrate me to no end!!!!  Sorry to hear about it!  Hope everything works out at the end for ya!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My wedding is not in march but I know EXACTLY how you feel! I have people who rsvp’ed “yes” and are now telling me they can not come. Its very frusturating! But for me its a double edged sword since I wished that the guest list was smaller and we went too crazy on the list. look at it this way though! You save money on the food!! πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

oh no! that’s terrible. Hopefully it doesn’t stress you out too much. At least they told you they wont be coming instead of just not showing up πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Such a bummer! πŸ™ I’m sorry.

 

That happened to us… 30 people did not show up who RSVP’d yes. About 12 of them let me know… but it was hard to take because we’d paid for the food already. and placed them at tables. πŸ™ Your wedding will be beautiful no matter what and hey! Now you have some extra space!

Post # 10
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256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had about 15 people not show up, a few of them called or sent a message with family but I was still annoyed about having to pay for their food.  Most were health related.  I also had an aunt and uncle who told my grandmother when she called to check if they were going to come, “We have been ill, and just don’t know what we’re going to be able to do until we wake up in the morning, but we’ll try to make it.”  Um, I called them a NO.  (And they didn’t make it.)

I feel your pain!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I had 7 people not show up. It really sucks and I was really bummed I had like a open table. (EVEN though the vendors sat and ate there.) In the long run I have come to terms w/ the not perfectness of the day. I still had tons of fun, I got married WHOO! And everyone who went said it was the best wedding they had been too in a very long time. SCORE!

 

So I am happy, just slightly bummed I already paid for the food.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Ms. Cheeseburger I think we have the same wedding date, and yes it’s happening to us too!  What a pain!  I still have to do the escort cards and seating charts because we tried to get replacements for all of the cancellations, after all those spots are already paid for.  So, it’s been a major pain, can’t believe people especially when it’s so close.  What’s sad too, is that the FH has far less guests and his are the ones that are canceling the most, so he is pretty bummed about the whole thing.  I’m more pissed about how inconsiderate and rude most of sideis being.  So there’s my vent.  But I feel ya!  Best of luck.  All of this will soon pass and we can focus on the exciting stuff.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@dancy- I know it was like why bother sending me the RSVP card.  And to top it off they added a guest to their card.  Aggh!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

People.  They have some nerve.  I’m sorry you’re going through this BUT – you’re getting married on Saturday!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If I pay for meals and people don’t show up I’ll be ticked, but I’m making the staff box them up and having them either taken home with family or dropped off at the local food pantry. I refuse to waste food that I paid for when other people would love a good hot meal!

Post # 16
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256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

In the last week we have had 6 people back out and 1 I only found out through the grapevine πŸ™

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