(Closed) guests cancelling the week of the wedding

posted 10 years ago in March 2010
Post # 17
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601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception

I’m always surprised at how people don’t realize what a pain it is when they do this! A friend of mine was telling me a story a little while ago about how there was a family wedding, and a cousin of hers called the bride just a few days before the wedding and asked if he could bring his new girlfriend, and the bride said no. My friend said, “can you BELIEVE how rude that was?!” and I said, “ugh, I know, that must have irritated her so badly…” and then I realized my friend meant that the BRIDE had been rude.

Also, my parents just RSVPd to a wedding that my whole family, including my Fiance, was invited to. I said I was worried that my Fiance wouldn’t be able to make it, and she said, “oh, no big deal, if it turns out he has to work then we’ll just call and cancel for him.” No, mom! We won’t!

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

gosh, @cheeseburger, i’m sorry to hear that! my worst nightmare is people who RSVP yes and don’t show up. we are already so tight for space that i would be hecka pissed to pay for empty seats that could have been filled with friends we’re not able to invite.

@vintage2010, did you respond to that couple? man, i’m almost boiling over with anger for you!!! 🙁

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Grrr…I can definitely feel where you are coming from.  I have had 5 cancellations in the last 2 weeks, a few the week of.  It makes me mad b/c we tried to keep things small and could have invited other friends to fill the spots.  Not to mention the extra meals, wasted chairs/chargers/napkins that we are paying for.  SO ANNOYING! 

@ vintage- seriously?  iI can not imagine what you said to that couple. We will put yes and let you know…uh, NOOOO!  that is ridiculous.  I am constantly amazed at how rude and inconsiderate people can be.

Post # 20
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1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Argh! I’m so not looking forward ot this part! My brother married 2 years ago and he had 10 no shows who had RSVPd Yes! Do they realize how expensive each plate is? I think his plates were like $65-70 per plate! Our plates are about $80 a plate plus we are being charged per person for the ceremony and what about the favors and lil things here and there. That all adds up and I don’t think people really relaize. I wish you can do like a note at the bottom of the response card:

*If you respond with a Yes but end up not attending  please consider that you just wasted $100 of our money.

 

If only!

Post # 21
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6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah, we’re up to about $350/400 per plate so I will be pissed if people cancel last minute because they had ‘something better’ come up. It’s a wedding, stop being so flighty and commit. I feel like no one can commit to plans nowadays, it’s like society tells people it’s ok.

Post # 22
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1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m sorry, I can completely relate! I was actually thankful for the people that were kind enough to tell me that they weren’t coming a week in advance. I had to change up the seating chart a bit,  but it was no biggie. Then, the DAY BEFORE the wedding I had people cancel. Now THAT is rude and I seriously hope it doesn’t happen to you.

The day of the actual wedding I noticed 9 people were missing that hadn’t even bothered to let me know that they wouldn’t be able to make it and still to this day haven’t apologized or told me why they didn’t come. Their loss. My wedding was still loads of fun without them 🙂 annd they will NEVER be invited to anything ever again.

Post # 23
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Oh no!!!! I hope this doesn’t happen to us.  I didn’t even think that this is possible, but judging from the responses here, it seems pretty common.  Yikes!

Post # 24
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948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Oh yeah we had cancellations, but even worse we had one group cancel one person and add 2 more 3 days before the wedding.  Another we had try to add 5 people several days before the wedding- my mom told them not to come.  Killed my table arrangements!  It all worked out in the end, but sure added more stress than I would like for those last couple of days. 

Post # 25
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I can sympathize! We had a groomsman who told us 3 days before that he couldn’t come. We had been afraid of that (he did warn us), but we just shuffled the tables a little. 5:30 the night before the wedding, he called the groom and said he’s be there! This meant my husband had to race over to the bridal shop less than 30 mins before they closed to try to get his suit. And when I heard about it a few minutes later, I got off the phone, laid across my bed and bawled for about 5 minutes over the thought of making another bout (we’d done the flowers ourself), figuring out the seating, another favor, all of that. After my 5 mins, I got up, looked at the seating chart and said forget it. He can sit with my fam since my sis decided she had better things to do than be at my wedding (whole other issue).

Guests cancelling last minute stink!

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yep, I just had a cancellation 10 days before the wedding… I spoke to soon.  I’m dreading the coming days…

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