Hi ladies, I’m sure I’m not alone feeling a bit stressed before a wedding, mine is in 6 weeks, can I have some feedback from you as I don’t want to overreact Or be paranoid for no reason.
Background first: I posted our wedding invites on July 3rd, with rsvp due aug 1st, mainly to prompt people to let us know as soon as (we’re paying catering separate and had to pay invoice early so needed to know rough numbers). Most were uk, one went to Canada and one to Germany. The email below is from the Germany couple (who are English though), I sent a follow up email a couple weeks ago as we didnt hear from them, turns out that they didn’t see the RSVP date on the invite but neither did a few people and I was quite gentle with my follow up email. Anyway they emailed their RSVP to us, fair enough, although most of our guests have returned a proper card to my parents as per the invite instruction.
This is what I got from them today:
We’ve been looking a bit more into our travel arrangements and I saw an old mail from you asking for my address to send out the save the date card – which reminded me that we never actually received one. So we didn’t know the date / location and whether or not we would be invited to the whole day until we received your invitation in mid July, which is why we didn’t think that you would be expecting us to confirm within just 2 weeks. The date was on the card though so I guess we should have read it more carefully!
Anyway, before we book our flights, we just wanted to double check that you would still like us to come as day and evening guests? (we didn’t get a reply from you when we emailed to say yes, so worried that you’re upset with us)
I hope you are both well
This was my reply:
Hi M, the invitation we sent you is for the whole day, it says for the ceremony and reception to follow? We wouldn’t have you just for the evening even if you lived here :-).
The reception will go on until 12:30.
Strange that you didn’t receive the save the date, yours was the first I posted and I did have your address from the Christmas card you posted to us. I’m a bit concerned about the mail now. However, at least you got the invitation.
Things have been hectic here, sorry we haven’t had the chance to reply to you and a lot of people who have emailed their rsvps, but don’t worry you are counted for and we are both very much looking forward to seeing you on the day and hopefully having a good catch up. X
On reflection I do feel that their email to me was a bit cutting? Or maybe I’m just being paranoid!
Thetime period they received the invitation is weird as the Canadian couple received theirs on the 7th July, wouldn’t the post to Germany take the same time?? It’s so petty I’m even having to defend when I posted them and when we wanted a reply by.
Sorry ladies I don’t want to moan on here but I’d appreciate your advice.
Im currently recovering from an operation (fertility investigation), although only our family are aware of it, and perhaps I’m just overly sensitive right now.. 🙂