Post # 1
I need advice!
We have a few guests who have made rude/snarky comments about us having a Christian ceremony. It’s nothing over the top, but we believe it’s a wedding is a worship service and are treating it accordingly. We’re not having communion, but the music is non-secular and all the readings are Scripture. Really not over the top.
I really don’t get it anyway because lots of people who aren’t even praticing Christians have Christian-style weddings. How do I deal with this?
Post # 3
Ugh. And others (like me) get snarky comments for not having a Christian ceremony. We’ll never please everyone. Are these people making the comments directly to you? That’s beyond rude, if so. Whatever you do, don’t let them affect you so much that you change anything about your ceremony.
Post # 4
that’s ridiculous. that’s what a wedding is about imo.
Post # 5
Agreed. There is no way to win. Your ceremony should reflect your beliefs.
Post # 6
I think you have the right to have whatever type of ceremony you want. And honestly I feel like it is suppose to reflect your religious beliefs- in having a minister you are making the commitment before God. The marriage license is a legal agreement the ceremony and vows I believe are more spiritual- for whatever religion you are or however involved in that religion you are.
Post # 7
Ugh, I’m so sorry you’re getting crap for that. I have also gotten people upset because god ISN’T in our ceremony. Figures, huh? I guess you can’t make everyone happy. Just remember the ceremony should reflect the two of you. I’m sure it will be beautiful.
Post # 8
Tell them to bite you. Seriously. They’re out of line.
Post # 9
This is your day. You decide. They are invited, if they don’t like it then they don’t need to be there. Please don’t change your mind about something that is important to you because people chose to voice their opinion.
Post # 10
Be confident in your decision. People question things but if you answer them confidently they’ll get the point.
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
That’s just ridiculous. It’s YOUR wedding. Do what YOU want!
Post # 12
Aside from telling them if they don’t like it they don’t have to come I think you just have to practice turning the other check. If they complain just smile and tell them that this ceremony is meant to represent your union to your FI and that you prefer to do it under God and then change the conversation. Some people are just rude and something about weddings brings their rudeness out even more, dont’ let it get to you!!!
Post # 13
I agree! How rude! I think you have every right to let them know that if they don’t like your choice in ceremony, they’re welcome to not come! Hrumph!
Post # 14
I got snarky comments also before our wedding. They came primarily from my Grandmother who was ‘bashing’ my sisters ceremony for not having the Eucharist and being ‘so fast’. I was thinking to myself “You crazy bat, you are the ONLY person in the world who wants the ceremony to be longer!” At the end of the day we had a 15 minute ceremony with a contemporary reading and it was so special to us. Guess what EVERYONE raved about how awesome it was that the ceremony was fast! Gmom still hasn’t commented, oh well.
Post # 15
I’m sorry! I’ve gotten a few snarky comments too about our Catholic church ceremony. But at the end of the day, I’ve let it go. It’s our wedding, our marriage and none of their business. We’re doing it because my parents are very Catholic and they’re paying for everything.
Good luck and happy marriage!
Post # 16
It’s sad that people want to interject their opinion. A ceremony is incredibly personal and should reflect your relationship and beliefs.