(Closed) Guests’ expectations?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Which reception idea is more acceptable?
    A formal sit-down dinner following the ceremony : (91 votes)
    81 %
    A series of more casual events over the weekend : (22 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2699 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @peachacid:  

    I’m not going to vote for either option because I think you could make a compromise. Why don’t you have a sit down buffet style meal. Find a venue that offers this or allows you to find your own catering and you’ll save that way.

    I think you should think about what’s most important to you for the day and research ways of doing that.

    Also, just fyi, my Fiance had a lot of ideas and demands at the start of our wedding planning and I went with it all, not realising how many options were out there for me. I wish I had said no and found a more cost effective option myself! Good luck!

    Post # 4
    Member
    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    You can have a beautiful wedding for $6000.  =)  Anything and everything is possible.  You can DIY a lot of things to help pinch pennies.

    We are having a backyard reception.  I’ve spent:

    • Wedding dress: $200
    • Photographer: $600
    • Bouquet: $20
    • Invitations&RSVP cards: $70

    I am hoping that someone that loves me tons will become ordained online to marry us so we don’t have to pay $400 for one day.  We also have A DJ, but I’m not sure how much he wants since he is a family friend and spoke to Future In-Laws.  Just need shoes, food, tent, and FI’s suit now!

    I’m beginning to believe my honeymoon is going to be more expensive than my wedding!

    Post # 5
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Are you and your fiance planning on adding to the budget? If the date in your profile is correct, you still have more than a year to save. Even if you can add another $4k-$5k, that would help a lot. 

    As for having the sit down dinner, if you’ll be having a lot of Out of Town guests I think it’s only appropriate to provide them with some kind of meal following the wedding. It doesn’t have to be a formal sit down, even a pig roast/clam bake/something else along those lines would suffice. They traveled a long distance to be there for you so you should try to make it worth their while. 

    Post # 6
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Well… I personally like receptions. But I also like a Friday night get together before the wedding too? I like seeing relatives/ old friends I haven’t seen in a while. The reception doesn’t have to be SO formal and expensive.

    Post # 7
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    It depends on the feel/theme/tone of your wedding. I would have a dinner of some sort for guest, wheter it’s bbq, buffet, or more causal meal its fine just as long as you feed them something.

    Post # 8
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    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    the weekend thing is new to me since joining wedding bee so I would never expect that. I think just the wedding and reception is fine and people understand how much they cost so they wouldn’t expect more. a weekend idea is nice but I’m sure it would be costly.

    Post # 10
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    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    You’re in New England– do some sort of regional seafood boil!  Make it buffet style and sit-down after the wedding.  You only need to host for one day, the rest of the vacation is up to them. 

    Post # 12
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    2699 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @peachacid:  Could you cater it yourselves??

    Post # 14
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    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Are you and your Fiance not adding anything to the budget? You have a year to save some more money….

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