(Closed) Guests handing in RSVPs instead of mailing them

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 18
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Sugar bee

I say this gently – you’re letting something completely unimportant get to you. You have to let this one go. NOT important. Pretend the people DID mail them if it helps, but you’re just going to make yourself crazy if you focus on this. You’re only hurting yourself.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@BakerBee16: I went the RSVP via email/phone route because I personally used to always forget to take RSVPs to the mailbox when I was going to be near one and it seems to be more common now in my circle. However still I had one Uncle and Aunt buy a Hallmark RSVP acceptance card and mail that to me (perhaps they don’t like RSVP via email but they did it for my sisters wedding so who knows. There will always be some who go against what you have suggested.   

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

It’s just not that big of a deal. Wait until you have to track people down amd you will wish they handed them to you.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

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@BakerBee16:  Every time your brain wanders in that direction, repeat something loudly to yourself, something like, “NOT THINKING ABOUT THIS” and then force yourself to think about something worthwhile. I think you’re kind of getting stuck in a groove of thinking about it obsessively and if you can create a new groove that would help.

Post # 25
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@CanadianBride456:  

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@Jijitattoo:  

+10000

say 50% of your guests hand-deliver the RSVP’s. You’re out $37. Let it go. It’s not worth risking your friends thinking you’re being snarky, for the sake of $37. Heck, YOU could rip the stamps off the hand-delivered ones and use them on whatever you have to mail. Then you’d be ahead! It’s not difficult to take 10 envelopes out of your car and put them where they belong. This is not a big deal unless you make it into one.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would let this one go. You spent it there is no use crying over spilt milk. Be happy you are getting your RSVPs back. I know people who have to hound people to even know if they are coming or not. 

Post # 28
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@BakerBee16:  you have to realize, though, when someone hands you an envelope that is meant to be delivered to you and you refuse to accept it, it’s awkwards at best, and could totally be interpreted as being bitchy. You can’t get past the $75 of postage but your guests can’t get past being made to feel like they’ve done something wrong by handing you a card.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@BakerBee16:  it’s rude of your Fiance to refuse to accept the RSVP when his coworkers were handing it to him, and asking them to go out of their way to put it in the mail. I would have looked at you (or him) like you had 3 heads if you refused to take my RSVP by hand. 

I think you’re getting upset about the “wasted” stamps, but the stamps are already bought and gone, it doesn’t matter what happens to them now. You aren’t saving any money now if the stamps get used or not…so just take the RSVP however the come.

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@BakerBee16:  I hear ya. Whether you pay for your wedding yourself or have help from family weddings are expensive events and money will be “wasted” on seemingly simple or frivolous things. 

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