Guests hearing wedding vows?

posted 1 year ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

TBH, I get really annoyed at weddings when I can’t hear the vows.  If you want something private then you should have either eloped or written it in a letter to be read before the ceremony.  You are having a wedding in front of people, so it goes to reason that they should be able to hear.

Post # 3
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890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I’m confused what situation you’d be in where the guests don’t hear your vows….? It’s a part of the ceremony so I’m not sure how guests wouldn’t hear them, unless you meant not using a mic or something? Personally I’d find it weird if I attended a wedding and didn’t hear the vows, it’s one of the most important parts of the wedding and I love hearing them.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

Why would you invite guests if you dont want them to hear you? 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Yes, your guests are supposed to hear the vows. It would be really weird to be sitting there watching the whole thing but not be able to hear what is going on. 

If you would prefer your guests not to hear your vows, I would suggest you do a simple ceremony just the two of you and the officiant and then host a reception with your guests. Do not invite them to your ceremony only to leave them out of the most important piece of it. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Yes, they should be able to hear.  Its kind of the point!

Fwiw I’ve been to weddings in big and small churches, outdoor ceremonies, and civil ceremonies in function rroms with terrible acoustics, and the only time anyone other than very old/deaf guests didn’t hear every word was when one of the grooms was a mumbler.  Speak clear and proud, and everyone should be able to hear you 🙂

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Yes, your guests should be able to hear the vows. It’s pretty much the whole point of them being there. At most weddings I’ve been to the officiant has a microphone so the entire ceremony can be heard by everyone.

Post # 9
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Honey bee

Yes.  Otherwise what is the point of inviting people to witness your marriage?  The vows are basically the thing that makes you married.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2020 - Hampton, VA

Does your venue not offer a sound system? If not I’d look into one and having it monitored by a hired professional – your DJ perhaps? 

I went to a friend’s wedding last year and it was outdoors. They had a mic and speakers behind the guests.

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee

Could you not hear the vows because they purposely didn’t say them out loud? Or did you not hear them because they were poor planners who didn’t think of utilizing a microphone so their guests could hear them?

You either need to speak up, make sure you are in a quiet area and/or rent a portable sound system.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

mingogo :  A microphone. It’s not a complicated logistic. Ask the venue and/or your DJ about it.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

We got married outside and had a microphone so guests could hear us exchange vows. 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I hate not hearing the vows. That’s the whole point! Honestly almost every single wedding I’ve been to that’s been held in a church has this problem. They mic up the pastor/priest so I can hear the whole sermon (the part I could not care less about) but they don’t use the mic for the actual vows (the part I care to actually hear). I hate when that happens. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

mingogo :  uhh…yes. people don’t want to just sit and stare at you for 20 mins without hearing anything. if the guest list is large enough, and your voice isn’t loud enough to be heard in your venue without amplification, then you need some sort of amplification. plain and simple. i’ve been to countleess outdoor weddings (including my own), and they all had sound systems and microphones so everything could be heard. your brother and his wife/husband sound like they planned things poorly. dont make their same bad choices.

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