Guests hearing wedding vows?

posted 1 year ago in Ceremony
Post # 31
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

catskillsinjune :  not trying to validate, just stating what I’m doing 🙂 hope that doesn’t offend you too much, although it seems that it has! 


Charliejeorge :  people will be aware before hand of the logistics of the ceremony (not everyone will fit on the dock) so at that point they can make the decision themselves if they’d like to attend the ceremony and toast or just come to the reception, to which I would take absolutley zero offense to!

Post # 32
3672 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

sollyb :  Ahh, the knowledge beforehand makes all the difference! Congratulations, I’ve never seen a wedding on a dock, but I bet it’d be gorgeous!

Post # 33
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2023

catskillsinjune :  actually I am eloping and would forego a ceremony at all if it was possible. I don’t care about ceremonies and if I can I skip them. 

Post # 34
1179 posts
Bumble bee

Unless you’re sure you can all speak loud and clear including the officiant, and that there is minimal noise, otherwise I would hire microphones and have the officiant hold it for you. That’s what most of them do where I live. In fact majority if not all of them have their own PA system and microphone so it’s all included in the package.

I don’t know why there’s even a debate on this, if you invite people to your ceremony of course they’re going to want to / expect to hear and see what’s going on. Not hearing what’s being said will be a quick way for people to start getting disengaged and maybe even start chattering amongst themselves (rude but happened at events I’ve been to before).

Personally, I love hearing the love story and the vows. Sure I love the eating and drinking part too, but witnessing and hearing two people I care about declaring their love for each other in their unique way is the highlight of the event for me.

Post # 35
1296 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I went to my friend’s wedding and I was so, so upset I couldnt hear the vows. Everyone in the front half of the room was laughing and tearing up and no one else knew what was going on. You’re vowing your love to your partner, sure, but you do have an audience. That you invited.

Post # 36
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I absolutely hate when the couple don’t think ahead and organise a microphone so that the guests can hear the vows. It’s the whole point of being there at the ceremony to witness such a special event. Please make sure if you invite guests to your ceremony, that you have a microphone so that your loved ones can properly be there with you both in that moment.

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