(Closed) Guests inviting Guests to our small destination wedding

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Wow!  Can you tell the first couple that while you are excited to have them at your wedding, you can’t have their kids there?  I mean, if it’s a desitination wedding and they want to enjoy the destination, I guess that’s one thing but to invite them to your wedding is a little much!  I would just be really honest with them about your intentions for your wedding! 

As for the other friend, same thing – you have to tell her that if she is having her brother they, he needs his own room.  It’s not fair for her to expect him just to stay with her without getting the ok from the other roomies. 

You really have no choice but to stick to your guns and be honest with everyone! Good luck!

Post # 4
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would definitely stick to your guns on this one.  I don’t see any reason why their teenaged children can’t find another activity to do while their parents attend your wedding.  We aren’t allowing children, and our guests who have an 11 and 13 year old are leaving them in the hotel room with a movie and room service (our wedding is at the same hotel).  I would have Fiance call them (since it is his friend) and explain the situation. 

As for your other friend… I almost feel like this is something that you should let your friends work out on their own.  The girls who feel uncomfortable sharing the room with a strange guy (totally understandable) should talk to the girl bringing her brother and get it worked out.  Can the brother bunk in with some of your guy friends maybe?  Either way, I think it’s definitely NOT your problem to figure out! 

Post # 5
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

To your first issue: I don’t see any problem with them coming on the actual vacation but just make clear that only the husband and wife are invited to the ceremony and reception. I would be happy that they are excited enough about the location to want to bring their kids and I promise you, those kids will be just as happy having pizza in the hotel.  The teenagers and brother should be old enough to take care of themselves for one night.

Second issue: let her know that he needs his own room because you don’t feel comfortable imposing on the other girls.  Tell here she is still welcome to stay in the room while he stays in a separate one but that he is not welcome in the group room.

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