(Closed) guests inviting themselves over… pushing my time away with DH

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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1327 posts
Bumble bee

This is something we have been dealing with for a long time, for last two years my SO has been working opposite shifts from me so I only see him on the weekends. Both our friends and family are always upset that they never see us, they wanted to see us constantly. Well I am sorry but I only see my SO two days a week so we are not going to spend every weekend with friends and family members. My In laws love to just drop by, its bloody annoying, a many times we have actually ignored the door (we walk lots so even if our cars are here it doesn’t mean we are).

Anyways you just need to learn to say no, because it wont really ever change. And yes your friends will probably change as your life changes, we have gained and lost many friends as they go away to school or have babies etc etc.

Post # 4
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I find this happening as well. I work night shifts on a rotation and have been for over 10 years, so am wondering why they thought that would somehow change when I got married lol.

My friends do not get that Darling Husband is my priority and seeing him comes before them. I find I have nothing in common with alot of them anymore now that we are working towards starting a family, getting a house, when most of them are still letting mommy do their laundry.

I find it annoying as hell that alot of my single friends just want to hang out at our place. No. We can go out but my place is not your relaxation station. I found I was making supper for 4-6 ppl every damned night and now and just really distancing myself and cultivation new friendships with people who are in the same place as me.

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