Post # 1
:/ Did any of you experience this as a newlywed?
I work at night away from Darling Husband all week so my weekends are pretty much a sacred time with Darling Husband for me. Last weekend I had 3 of my old friends invite themselves over. At first I was like… oooh, okay yeah sure. You guys can come do work at our place. Well somehow the original intent of work/studying was lost and they ended up controlling our apartment/tv, etc for 4 hours that night. I was almost dying but couldn’t bring myself to tell them to leave. It was so weird! They never did this at my apartment when I lived with girls in university. Now that we have a nice place and it’s me and Darling Husband, it seems we are a magnet for people wanting to come over and use our place/things to escape from their own places.
Also, I work with a lot of single people who automatically suggest we use weeknights (when I don’t work) to have meetings.
I’m sooo tired of this. I don’t know how to explain this nicely but Darling Husband and I never had a honeymoon and I feel like I see him every three days. 🙁
Edit: I don’t know how to remain friends with these people as we really have nothing in common anymore? If they keep this up even after I’ve explained this… should I just try to make new friends, perhaps other newlyweds?
Post # 3
This is something we have been dealing with for a long time, for last two years my SO has been working opposite shifts from me so I only see him on the weekends. Both our friends and family are always upset that they never see us, they wanted to see us constantly. Well I am sorry but I only see my SO two days a week so we are not going to spend every weekend with friends and family members. My In laws love to just drop by, its bloody annoying, a many times we have actually ignored the door (we walk lots so even if our cars are here it doesn’t mean we are).
Anyways you just need to learn to say no, because it wont really ever change. And yes your friends will probably change as your life changes, we have gained and lost many friends as they go away to school or have babies etc etc.
Post # 4
I find this happening as well. I work night shifts on a rotation and have been for over 10 years, so am wondering why they thought that would somehow change when I got married lol.
My friends do not get that Darling Husband is my priority and seeing him comes before them. I find I have nothing in common with alot of them anymore now that we are working towards starting a family, getting a house, when most of them are still letting mommy do their laundry.
I find it annoying as hell that alot of my single friends just want to hang out at our place. No. We can go out but my place is not your relaxation station. I found I was making supper for 4-6 ppl every damned night and now and just really distancing myself and cultivation new friendships with people who are in the same place as me.
Post # 5
@mrsjustinm2b: oh gosh yes. We’ve gotten the invites, ‘so when are you going to let us come over and cook dinner for us???’
Good grief. I eat lean pockets haha. Honestly we’re so busy that solid meals are hard to come by, we can’t even afford to feed ourselves a decent hot meal more than once or twice a week. 😛
I find that I, too, am leaning towards newer friends/married friends the more time goes by. I really have nothing in common with most of my peers anymore. They are def. the ‘I live in dorms and my mom does my laundry’ type of people.