Post # 1
Hey guys – so my finance and I sent out our STD postcards about a month ago. I have heard from some people that they recieved (like around the world) but others that are local to us and knew they were definetly invited have gotten in touch (about a half dozen) to say they never recieved – what do i do?
I’m really worried people that wern’t sure they were invited may feel slighted and since they were postcards there wasn’t a return address for the post office.
And advice? I feel horrible but also don’t want to do a facebook broadcast (since there are plenty of people we aren’t inviting).
We’re talking about 130 invites.
Post # 3
I found a fair amount of our STD postcards simply got lumped in with junk mail and people did receive them but didn’t notice them. (That’s why I tell people if I were doing it again, I’d send them in envelopes.)
If you WANT to say something on Facebook, you can make a group that is only people you invited to the wedding and when you post, select them in the drop down menu so only they are able to see it. I did that when I wanted to remind people that hotel blocks were expiring, it worked fine and only those invited could see it.
Or I’d just keep mentioning it to people as you talk to them one on one.
Post # 4
@angthrice: curious why you didn’t put a return address – there should have been room even on the postcard.
You should check the postoffice, they would likely know if there has been a large volume of the same postcard returned for some reason.
Post # 5
Same thing happened to me! Our friends in the next town over said they never received STD, but many people have told us they did receive them. I’m not gonna stress it since it was just the STD, but my invitations better make it to where they’re going!!
Also–why wouldn’t you put a return address? That would make me very nervous to send out! I had about 5 of mine come back undeliverable because we had the wrong info for them, they had moved, etc. That’s what I would worry about if I were you :/
Post # 6
@NAvery: I HATE the excuse of “oh, I thought it was junk mail.” DO THESE PEOPLE EVEN READ THEIR MAIL?! I would never throw something out without actually reading it first 🙁
Post # 7
I had the same issue, and ours even had a return address on them. But it seems like a good amount of people never received them and they never got returned.
Post # 8
its a fancy photo postcard – they used the room for the return address for additional photos – UGH. Thanks for the advice guys.
Post # 9
Same thing happened to me! We sent out 5 test postcards (with postcard postage) to family and only 2 of the 5 received theirs. We had a return address on them but didn’t get any bouncebacks. So we ended up buying envelopes and sending them out as regular mail with full first class postage – as far as I know everyone received them. We’re still confused as to the low hit rate with the test postcards, but glad we went with the envelopes ultimately.
Post # 10
@angthrice: Id’ nto say anything. the STD isn’t nessecary, and it’s not like it’s the actual invite. if someone asks you, just say you’ve been hearing some went MIA, and the wedding is on XX date.
Post # 11
@W292737: we ended up just sending a mass email with everyone BCC’d this afternoon saying that we heard a bunch of people didn’t get it and this is the date and our website and you’ll be getting a formal invite later in the year. We have a lot of international guests so I wanted to make sure they had the heads up as early as possible (since the normal invite window of 6-8 is not enough time to plan a trip it NYC!)