(Closed) Guests not having a choice of food…

posted 4 years ago in Food
Post # 3
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Kafrine:  We’re having a small, intimate wedding. We are having prime rib and the 2 kids are having chicken fingers. Nobody gets a choice. We have no vegans/vegetarians. I would say that the majority of meat eaters like chicken, so I think you’re good!

Post # 4
7120 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You have a vegetarian option right?

I don’t think you necessarily need two types if meat but a choice of meals is nice for people that don’t like certain foods. How is the chicken being prepared? 

Post # 6
12257 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it’s fine to just have the one choice, as long as you have a special second option for any veggie friends!

Post # 7
7656 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Kafrine:  Our venue gave us one choice of meat, side, and veggie. We chose something that *most* people would probably like: Chicken cordon bleu, mashed potatoes, and veggie medley. There was a vegitarian option, but no one opted for that.

Post # 8
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Kafrine:  We aren’t giving our guests a choice and I’ve been to weddings where I haven’t had a choice either. The last wedding I went to did a chicken with some type of sauce and stuffing, they also had salad and dessert. We are choosing what we can afford to spend, what sounds the best that most people would like and when we send out the invite, when they RSVP on our wedding website, they can write in if they have any meal restrictions so we know if we need to let the venue know. The vegetarin meals are less money than what we choose to do so when we know for sure we can let the venue know. My fiance and I already talked about it and don’t think that the meal will be an issue since we don’t know any vegetarians. At least your guests have an option incase of allergy/vegetarin so I think you’ll be fine!  

Post # 9
45631 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

People do just fine when they go to banquets from whether it’s a Rotary club, or the largest, grandest fund-raiser, when they are served a plated dinner with no choice of entree.

Post # 10
7120 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Kafrine:  I think you’re fine then 🙂

When I go over to someone’s house for dinner they usually only have one choice as well so since you’re having something fairly common I don’t think it should be a problem. 

Post # 11
3221 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Kafrine:  I don’t think choice is necessary, as long as you allow for dietary restrictions! Some guests may not be able to process dairy (cream sauce), and etc. 

Post # 13
12621 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I prefer a choice, but hey, who really cares?  You’re feeding them, that’s what counts.

Post # 14
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Kafrine:  Im so surprised that no “etiquette snobs” or whatever people call them have come in here, but I agree with everyone else 🙂

Make sure they can do a decent vegetarian option (don’t settle for the salad and veggies from the sides, this is a pet peeve of mine that people don’t offer veggo’s a real meal… even though Im not one!) And of course gluten free, dairy free blah blah blah 🙂

Just think of it as everyone coming to your house for dinner, do they complain? Of course not, your feeding them! 😛

Post # 15
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s one meal. As I’ve said before, even the “picky” eaters won’t starve over one meal that they didn’t get to choose themselves. You pick what you want, and let everyone else deal with it. Really, it’s chicken – veggies/vegans aside, that’s basically the safest option out there.

We did and did not do “options” – we made all the choices, but our guests are getting a small portion of chicken AND steak instead of one or the other. Truthfully, I just did not want to deal with everyone’s meal selections and a bunch of “I don’t want ___” or “I hate ____.” As it is, we have ten (10!) legit food allergies and two religious restrictions; I have no time for fussypants on top of that.

We are having a caesar salad, chicken & steak, roasted potatoes & other seasonal veggies, and our wedding cake for dessert. If in all that, people can’t find something they like, then they are too picky for their own good.

Post # 16
6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@FutureMrsHallam: I think even if there were an etiquette snob here, etiquette is more about catering to your guests’ needs. As long as people can have their dietary needs met (vegetarian, etc.), then the rules have been followed!


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