(Closed) guests seating arrangements

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ChocolateLime:  My teenage kids would much rather sit with family, way preferable to sitting with teenagers they don’t know. Especially since 13 and 21 year olds don’t have a lot in common.

Are these the only two tables, or do you have others? If you have others you could move one couple (say an aunt+uncle or a very close friend of the family) to the table of 5.

Post # 5
Member
7872 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ChocolateLime:  A table of 21 year olds doesn’t sound too bad so long as everyone knows someone. Why don’t you phone/text/facebook your 13 y.o. cousin (or her parents) and ask which table she’d prefer? But when I was that age, I’d prefer to sit with my parents; and my kids are/were the same.

Post # 6
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2872 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ChocolateLime:  I would do this second option, leave the 13yo w/ parents and put the 21yos together.  I don’t think a table of 8 and a table of 6 is bad.  I think that’s by far the best compromise. I wouldn’t put the 13yo with the 21yos; that’s a huuuge age/maturity distance (not to mention everyone else can drink alcohol…) Then you have all tables of 8 and one of 6, that sounds perfect.  There’s seriously no need to have mostly 8 and then two 7s.  Trust me, I understand the frustrations of seating charts… trying to work on mine now….

 

Post # 7
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1467 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@ChocolateLime:  As a teenage wedding guest I would have rather not sat with the adults. I have been to a few weddings where I sat with relatives from the other side and I thought it was awesome getting to know them! If FI really won’t budge on this can you get a smaller table for the 5? My venue has all different size tables so it wouldn’t look weird, not sure how yours is. 

Post # 8
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1814 posts
Buzzing bee

I have gone through weddings of my own and 3 of my daughters.  I wholeheartedly agree that people DO want to sit, socialize, and visit with family!  At last DD’s wedding we had a table of 6 on our side and a table of 5 on his side.  It looked fine.  People do NOT notice stuff like that!  I would have never mixed the tables so they looked pretty at the expense of not sitting people with others they know and enjoy.  You are over-thinking this one big time.  Just leave it as is!

Post # 9
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3736 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ChocolateLime:  If I was 21, I’d hate sitting with 13 year olds. A 21 year old is not a child and should be seated with the adults. I’d keep the tables as is and people will appreciate the extra elbow room at the less crowded table.

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