(Closed) Guests should stop inviting more guests!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Lol! I hope they stop laying on the guilt… 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You tell ’em!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Put your foot down and don’t let anyone bully you. Tell them that you have invited everyone you can due to space and/or budget limitations. If they still don’t listen, ignore them and they will be the ones looking like ignorant fools in the end.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

Oh no!!  That’s awful!!

Don’t you wish you could really let them have it like that?  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Haha – I hear you. My mom’s all about tradition and FI’s got a huge family. We each sat down with our parents (separately) and showed them our list. We basically said (in a very kind, polite & casual way), “These are the people we’d like to be there, so these are the folks we’re paying for. If you want Great Aunt Milly, Dad’s old golf buddy & the people who used to live next door to come, they’re YOUR guests, we can add them to the guest list – but you have to cover the difference. We can’t afford it.”

Problem solved. They can invite the mailman for all I care – long as they’re covering the cost! 😉 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

OMG, I hear ya!  It’s ridiculous!  People have a lot of nerve when it comes to wedding and what they’d like the bride and groom to do!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

People really do have the nerve!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

How about that!!!

You’re exactly right.  At their weddings, they can invite whoever they like. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Tell them they are more than welcome to invite whoever they want as long as they foot the bill 😉

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you have invited everyone you want, why even entertain the idea of random people you don’t care about (and who don’t care about you) in attendance? It’s rude for anyone else to invite and pay for other guests, even out of their own pockets. You do have to abide by maximum capacity laws as well if you don’t want to be fined for overcrowding.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

put your foot down now…..the ealier the better! explain to your parents and his parents that they need to spread the word that its your wedding, and you decide who goes, end of story!!!

 

good luck!

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ugh boooo on all of them!

Definitely put your foot down. It’s easy for them to say “oh it’s only one more person” when in reality, all that money adds up big time!

If they say anything, just say you don’t have the budget for it! I mean, really.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Neato anedo – Sad thing is, usually, these kind of people will reply, let me know how much dinner is.

I would send an itemized statement. 1 extra program, 1 extra chair, 1/8 centeriece, 1/8 tablecloth, 1 plate/bread plate/cake plate/glass/wine galss, bar tab, cake cutting fee, cake slice fee, service fee…. Standard markup fee…

That will be $300 please. haha

Post # 16
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Worker bee

I so hear you.  We already compromised on inviting some random friends of my fiance’s stepmother’s… and then on vacation, she drunkenly invited the random friends’ PARENTS, and asked us to send them a STD.  Who does that???  Fi diplomatically put them at the bottom of the B List.

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