Post # 1
How about guests (certain family members) giving me a guilt trip for not inviting other, extended family members. Last time I freakin checked, me and the Fiance are paying for the wedding, NOT THEM! So don’t tell me traditional weddings have 300 people, when traditionally, PARENTS pay for the wedding, NOT the couple. How about no one gets invited?! How about that.
Post # 3
Lol! I hope they stop laying on the guilt… 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 5
Put your foot down and don’t let anyone bully you. Tell them that you have invited everyone you can due to space and/or budget limitations. If they still don’t listen, ignore them and they will be the ones looking like ignorant fools in the end.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
Oh no!! That’s awful!!
Don’t you wish you could really let them have it like that? Good luck!
Post # 7
Haha – I hear you. My mom’s all about tradition and FI’s got a huge family. We each sat down with our parents (separately) and showed them our list. We basically said (in a very kind, polite & casual way), “These are the people we’d like to be there, so these are the folks we’re paying for. If you want Great Aunt Milly, Dad’s old golf buddy & the people who used to live next door to come, they’re YOUR guests, we can add them to the guest list – but you have to cover the difference. We can’t afford it.”
Problem solved. They can invite the mailman for all I care – long as they’re covering the cost! 😉
Post # 8
OMG, I hear ya! It’s ridiculous! People have a lot of nerve when it comes to wedding and what they’d like the bride and groom to do!
Post # 9
People really do have the nerve!
Post # 10
How about that!!!
You’re exactly right. At their weddings, they can invite whoever they like.
Post # 11
Tell them they are more than welcome to invite whoever they want as long as they foot the bill 😉
Post # 12
If you have invited everyone you want, why even entertain the idea of random people you don’t care about (and who don’t care about you) in attendance? It’s rude for anyone else to invite and pay for other guests, even out of their own pockets. You do have to abide by maximum capacity laws as well if you don’t want to be fined for overcrowding.
Post # 13
put your foot down now…..the ealier the better! explain to your parents and his parents that they need to spread the word that its your wedding, and you decide who goes, end of story!!!
Post # 14
Ugh boooo on all of them!
Definitely put your foot down. It’s easy for them to say “oh it’s only one more person” when in reality, all that money adds up big time!
If they say anything, just say you don’t have the budget for it! I mean, really.
Post # 15
Neato anedo – Sad thing is, usually, these kind of people will reply, let me know how much dinner is.
I would send an itemized statement. 1 extra program, 1 extra chair, 1/8 centeriece, 1/8 tablecloth, 1 plate/bread plate/cake plate/glass/wine galss, bar tab, cake cutting fee, cake slice fee, service fee…. Standard markup fee…
That will be $300 please. haha
Post # 16
I so hear you. We already compromised on inviting some random friends of my fiance’s stepmother’s… and then on vacation, she drunkenly invited the random friends’ PARENTS, and asked us to send them a STD. Who does that??? Fi diplomatically put them at the bottom of the B List.