(Closed) Guests showing up late to the ceremony.

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Showing up late is just unacceptable (unless there is an emergency). People should account for traffic, etc. and plan to get there early. Before our wedding, I noticed a group of my husbands friends always got to weddings late-like every single one they showed up as the bridal party was entering or after the ceremony. It was a huge pet peeve of mine so I instructed my wedding planner to stop anyone who showed up late from walking in during the ceremony-sounds harsh but I figured I would see them and be annoyed about it during the ceremony rather than concentrating on the wedding! I also warned his friends about this and told them all to show up early. It worked and they were all on time for once!!! 🙂

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Showing up late is rude. But I think it’s important to stress this to the people you know who are constantly late that the wedding starting on time. One of my friends advise me to print different times for the latin portion of my guest list because they are always late in her opinion. She did it at her wedding, and she still had people family members being extra late!

 

Post # 19
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273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We had several people show up late to our wedding – but to be honest, I didn’t notice at all.  I was ready to go like an hour before the ceremony – had no idea that we started 20 minutes late to accommodate the straglers.  A few friends did not make the cutoff, so they were able to watch from a separate area but not make a big scene.

 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It happens.  For most of my husband’s friends we were late because he did not bother to look up directions, etc.  So it was left to me as we drove in that general area in the car!!  I learned I had to take the reins on that kind of thing.

I didn’t mind/notice the latecomers.  It was the people that didn’t even bother coming to the ceremony that bug me.  That is the whole point of the wedding!!!  And we got married in a beautful garden so those anti-religious people have zero excuse.

Post # 22
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I attended a Friday night wedding (6pm), and was unable to leave work early enough to arrive on time. We told the couple ahead of time that it might be an issue and they said they completely understood and expected that some people would be late/miss the ceremony. I think that, for the most part, people understand that some circumstances are out of your control. I might be insulted if I found out they were late because of something else, though.

Post # 23
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@alphagam84:  I think I’m going to have my coordinator stop people from entering after the bridal party comes down the aisle. I definitely understand that a lot of people will be attending from out of town, and would feel bad if they missed the ceremony, but I definitely don’t want people moving around during the ceremony. It would be very obvious at our venue

I’m really worried about the REALLY important people- like our parents and grandparents being late. My dad is notoriously late for everything, and my poor Future Mother-In-Law will no doubt be managing a good deal of out of town relativies. Our venue is about an hour and a bridge-tunnel bottleneck away from where both sets of parents live. Obviously, we would not start the ceremony without them, but I have severe anxiety when it comes to time and promptness. When I say a 3:30 start time, I mean it, and your tail needs to be in a seat by 3:20 a the latest! 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Being late to a wedding is extremely rude.  I instructed my coordinator to lock the door at 3:25 (wedding started at 3:30) but since there was a line at the door at that time, she let the last guests in line in, took them to their seats, locked the door and we started about 3:40.

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