(Closed) Guests showing up without RSVPing?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I can’t say anything about the not RSVPing, but I went to a wedding that seemed fairly small and the reception was HUGE. I’m not sure if it was because it was in a catholic church, so maybe non catholic’s didn’t go? I thought it was strange. I wouldn’t go to a reception without going to the ceremony unless it was a private/small ceremony specifically.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Wow! Beyond rude!

If anyone does that to me it will be a very simple “No RSVP, no reception, and no, I don’t care if you’re offended Aunt so-and-so”.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@memo:  I purposely don’t go to a catholic ceremony, because they’re just too damn long!! I’ve made an exception or two for very close people, but other than that…no way I’m sitting in a church for one and a half to two hours!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

That is the upside of having a destination wedding, lol!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ekee:  Do people even notice if you weren’t at the ceremony? I don’t know if I would. but we have a 150 invite for the ceremony and 342 total for the reception.

Did they jsut NOT RSVP or did they RSVP no and then show up? I plan to call all my missing RSVPs if it comes down to it.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

OMG! my God mother got married April 12 this year. She rented out a loft space that was very small and had a few tables.. Because only a few rsvp’d. Everything  at the church but when we traveled to the loft space she had (and im not exxagerating) over 40 more people show up and without a gift or card! It was a flea market in there! My poor mom was crying and trying to find tables and space, I had to sit her down and tell her sit down eat and enjoy your day! Let them stand! or someone else can take care of them. So please call and ensure how many people are attending but its always atleast one who come without a rsvp. SO wrong

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@HeMadeMeWantTo:  What Catholic weddings have you been to?? I’ve been to numerous and none have gone beyond an hour long.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I guess some people really do just come for the food. RUDE!

There were some extras at my sister’s wedding. Some people brought +1s that they didn’t write on their RSVPs. One person only wrote her name in and brought +3!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Miss Circe:  Would you like me to name the catholic weddings I’ve been to or was that just a snarky rhetorical question? Either way…. catholic weddings are too long for me!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@HeMadeMeWantTo:  More of a shocked rhetorical question actually as neither I or any other Catholics I know would happily through a church wedding ceremony for more than an hour. Thus I’m pondering what would have been involved in those ceremonies to warrant such a length of time.

 

In terms of the original post, I would be extremely PO’ed if anyone came to the reception without RSVPing or attending the ceremony, unless it was a legitimate reason. Just like the Fiance and I would be annoyed if someone stood up in the middle of our ceremony to go out for a cigarette Yell

 

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