Post # 1
Was at a beautiful wedding this past weekend and at the reception dinner (chinese restaurant), Fiance and I found out we were sitting at a table of randoms…turns out these “randoms” showed up at the dinner without RSVPing at all! They didn’t even go to the ceremony!! The wedding co ordinators were frantically trying to set up a table for them…temporarily putting them on our table.
We eventually got moved to a table of our other friends, but WTH? Who the hell shows up without RSVPing? AND not going to the ceremony? Some people just gall me with the level of rudeness.
Has this happened to you, or to others you know of?
Thinking about guest lists and RSVPs and seating charts is already breaking me out in a cold sweat (doesn’t help that I’m having a huge wedding too).
Post # 3
I can’t say anything about the not RSVPing, but I went to a wedding that seemed fairly small and the reception was HUGE. I’m not sure if it was because it was in a catholic church, so maybe non catholic’s didn’t go? I thought it was strange. I wouldn’t go to a reception without going to the ceremony unless it was a private/small ceremony specifically.
Post # 4
Wow! Beyond rude!
If anyone does that to me it will be a very simple “No RSVP, no reception, and no, I don’t care if you’re offended Aunt so-and-so”.
Post # 5
@memo: I purposely don’t go to a catholic ceremony, because they’re just too damn long!! I’ve made an exception or two for very close people, but other than that…no way I’m sitting in a church for one and a half to two hours!
Post # 6
That is the upside of having a destination wedding, lol!
Post # 7
@ekee: Do people even notice if you weren’t at the ceremony? I don’t know if I would. but we have a 150 invite for the ceremony and 342 total for the reception.
Did they jsut NOT RSVP or did they RSVP no and then show up? I plan to call all my missing RSVPs if it comes down to it.
Post # 8
OMG! my God mother got married April 12 this year. She rented out a loft space that was very small and had a few tables.. Because only a few rsvp’d. Everything at the church but when we traveled to the loft space she had (and im not exxagerating) over 40 more people show up and without a gift or card! It was a flea market in there! My poor mom was crying and trying to find tables and space, I had to sit her down and tell her sit down eat and enjoy your day! Let them stand! or someone else can take care of them. So please call and ensure how many people are attending but its always atleast one who come without a rsvp. SO wrong
Post # 9
@HeMadeMeWantTo: What Catholic weddings have you been to?? I’ve been to numerous and none have gone beyond an hour long.
Post # 10
I guess some people really do just come for the food. RUDE!
There were some extras at my sister’s wedding. Some people brought +1s that they didn’t write on their RSVPs. One person only wrote her name in and brought +3!
Post # 11
@Miss Circe: Would you like me to name the catholic weddings I’ve been to or was that just a snarky rhetorical question? Either way…. catholic weddings are too long for me!
Post # 12
@HeMadeMeWantTo: More of a shocked rhetorical question actually as neither I or any other Catholics I know would happily through a church wedding ceremony for more than an hour. Thus I’m pondering what would have been involved in those ceremonies to warrant such a length of time.
In terms of the original post, I would be extremely PO’ed if anyone came to the reception without RSVPing or attending the ceremony, unless it was a legitimate reason. Just like the Fiance and I would be annoyed if someone stood up in the middle of our ceremony to go out for a cigarette