(Closed) Guests stand when the bride enters – what’s the meaning behind it?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Standing is a show of respect. I am also going to have our guests stay seated.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

That’s interesting.  I like the idea of sitting, as a guest.  I can’t see over anyone.

However, as the bride I like when guests stand.  Not because of respect, but because I think I’d feel more self conscious if everyone was seated.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

99.9% of wedding traditions originated in the Middle Ages. The rest are very recent inventions from tv and the Wedding Industry in general creating concepts that they have convinced folks have been around since the dawn of time and no one is the wiser.

That said, this particular tradition of standing is something that people just started doing with no idea why they were doing it. It has no historical basis but is seen as respectful. That is pretty much the only reason it’s done. It’s one of those things that is so commonplace that no one even questions it. Traditionally, no one stands until the mother (stepmother/grandmother, etc) of the bride stands. If there is no mother figure (even that of the groom) who does this, then guests usually remain seated without any announcements. It’s all personal preference in the end and you’re still legally married whichever you decide.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it also has to with seeing the bride walking down the aisle.

If the aisle is really long it is hard for people to turn around and see her. It is easier to turn around if your standing if front of your chair!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

@oracle: I don’t think I will have it announced. I just won’t have the officiant say please stand for the bride. I decided to do this because we have a lot of elderly guests that will be coming and I don’t think it is fair to make them have to stand up while I come in. I am also a short person, so I can’t see when everyone stands, so this will also help other shorter guests be able to see without having to strain themselves.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@noritake22 – i plan on having the officiant ask folks to stay seated. even at weddings where the officiant DOESNT say please stand, someone no fail does it out of habit and everyone ends up getting up off their butts.

so if you dont have it announced expect that someone will stand and everyone will follow suit.

Post # 10
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Honey bee

If you’re having programs, you can include the announcement there. Along side the “please turn off cell phones”, etc.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

@spaganya: I may have to reconsider then.

@Ember78: That is a very good idea. I didn’t even think about the cell phone factor.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ember78 – great idea with the programs

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