Post # 1
We are getting married in September 2012 in a grassy area overlooking the beach. We plan to have about 30 chairs for family, elderly, etc. Our ceremony will be very quick but we have 100 guests total, so about 70 people would be standing. We are having pre-ceremony drinks, wine and beer to make standing through the ceremony less uncomfortable. Do you think people will be ok standing through the ceremony? I’m thinking the alcohol will make it better lol. Has anyone been to a ceremony without chairs, if so what did you think?
Post # 3
I would not like to go to a ceremony without chairs. Even if you have, say, a 15 minute ceremony, I’d still probably arrive 15 minutes early. That’s 30 minutes standing in heels. I would not be happy. I’d appreciate the pre-ceremony drinks, but then there’s the trouble of standing in heels for 30 minutes with my purse, my camera, AND a drink with nowhere to set things (like under a chair or in my lap).
I’d say the general rule is a chair for every butt. Some people get benches or rent those little white folding chairs to remedy this problem.
Post # 4
As a guest, I wouldn’t like to stand, no matter how long or short the ceremony would be. Plus, it can get crowded, people complaining they can’t see, etc. I wouldn’t like the possible disorganization as a bride, either. The thought of 70 people standing doesn’t appeal to me at all (and I’d probably feel anxious with them looming!) Alcohol wouldn’t do much for those who don’t drink (like myself and Fiance, for example) and it could make people even more “rowdy.”
Post # 5
Sorry but I highly advise you to get chairs or benches for all your guests. You want everybody to be comfortable.
Post # 6
Don’t bother asking here. I stand for hours every day not even thinking about it but if you ask anyone if they want to stand it’s *huff* “I’d never!”
Most of our guests will stand through our ceremony and won’t have a problem with it. We have a few chairs for those that need them. Otherwise – they can stand for 20min.
I stood through a wedding last weekend. No big deal. It was much shorter than the time I spent standing throughout the reception by my own choice just chatting, dancing, and drinking. And by then my feet hurt much worse!
Post # 7
Unless I was standing in sand which required that I had to take my shoes off (aka my heels) then I’d probably be pretty uncomfortable.
Post # 8
I’d rather be sitting and sober than standing with a drink. People will want to take pictures. Fumbling with a purse because you can’t put it in your lap isn’t cute (or quiet). I would be so uncomfortable and consider leaving (unless I knew it was 15 mins long. Then i’d stay and be pissed).
Rent everyone a chair. If you REALLY can’t (and I’m talking you’ve already dropped lighting, a videographer, and other addons and there’s still no money for chairs) … at least set out picnic blankets so that people can sit on the ground.
Post # 9
Lol I think its a short ceremony ppl will be fine and you have enough chairs for ppl who HAVE to sit. I’m sure u will get plenty of replies of ppl who will say u shouldn’t do it but it depends on how well u know ure guest. My friends and family would be fine with this but some ppl are huffy.
Post # 10
I don’t think I’d be unhappy standing. As long as its a short ceremony. anything over 20min I say no. But it seems like I’m in the minority.
Post # 11
if it’s on grass, it may be uncomfortable for the females in high heels; not to mention holding drinks too.
how long is the ceremony? if it’s any longer than 10-15 min, i’d get more chairs. can you use the chairs from the dinner?
Post # 12
I think the problem with standing is that for a lot of people standing while mingling is a lot different from standing in one place for 20 minutes (or however long). Obviously during the ceremony guests aren’t going to feel like they can move around and it just gets uncomfortable. I was at a wedding once and the officiant forget to tell everyone to sit so we all stood the whole time and it wasn’t horrible.
Post # 13
My friends only had chairs for family and the only problem was that there wasn’t a really defined aisle. I am planning on doing the same thing (our ceremony is going to be realy short) and I think it will turn out fine.
Post # 14
I attended a short beach ceremony that had a similar set up. (We were handed champagne by wait staff, but only after the “I do”s.) it wasn’t my favorite part of their wedding day to be honest, mostly because it was REALLY windy and I was wearing a wrap dress that kept blowing in all kinds of inappropriate ways, and I had on heels that I had to carry because it was the beach (I hadn’t known the ceremony was going to be on the beach, or standing, otherwise I would have dressed differently). So, instead of paying attention to the vows of two people I love dearly, I was pretty distracted and uncomfortable. On the other hand, it was a memorable ceremony for its beauty and unique qualities, and standing in a circle close to the couple felt intimate and informal – it really was nice. So, it can be done, and I certainly love my friend and would have much rather been standing at her wedding fighting my dress than not there at all. I would advise trying to get the word out to your guests so they can manage expectations.
Post # 15
My ceremony was 5 minutes long, and people stood. It was fine. There were chairs for anyone who needed them. As long as that’s covered, and if hte ceremony really is under 10 minutes, I think it’s totally fine. I mean, people go to parties where they stand all night in heels, right?
Post # 16
I’ve been to weddings where everyone stood and as long as it’s short (under 15 minutes) it was fine. Just be sure to have a good sound system. And with that many people you and the minister may need an elevated stage so everyone can see you.