(Closed) Guests Taking Centerpieces

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’ve heard of this happening a lot; it just amazes me that people assume weddings are up-for-grab type events. Boo. Your sandcastles do sound cute though =]

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

This surprises me!  I’ve never seen this happen – why on earth would people think that it’s okay to just bring centerpieces home?  Weird.

We were going to put a note out telling people to feel free to take ours home – we made recycled wine glass vases – but maybe people will just assume that anyway, haha!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

It’s actually tradition in a lot of families for someone at each table to take the centerpiece. Maybe they assumed this was the case at your wedding? I hope no one tries to take my rented candleabras!

and the sand castles do sound really cute 🙂

Post # 6
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Newbee

Oh my goodness that is madness!  I can’t imagine someone thinking it would be a good idea to walk out of the wedding with your centerpiece, they must have really loved them!  Isn’t that what we spend all this time making favors for? 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… that really stinks! It’s a pretty common thing to tell guests to take home FLOWER centerpieces, but non-floral centerpieces? Thats when you send out a mass email telling everyone that you need them BACK so another bride can use them.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We had tall centerpieces with vases rented by our florist…so the height alone made them pretty impossible to take (or I’m sure I would be in the same situation as you!).  However, at the rehearsal dinner, we had silver cube place card holders at each setting which  I wanted to use the next day to hold the table numbers at the wedding.   Of course everyone left them on the table at the rehearsal dinner with the exception of my Mother-In-Law, Father-In-Law and SIL.  

We now affectionately refer to them as ‘the thieves’.

And yes, I realize that many people use those as favors at weddings, so I shouldn’t really be surprised.   And it would have been embarassing to ask for them back…luckily we had plenty left even with the thievery. 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

my gosh! I am borrowing vases from a friend that had a wedding this past July.. then her other friend is using them next summer. I sure hope no one takes borrowed centerpieces!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I cannot believe that people do this.  I will so say something to people if they try to do that at mine, I think it is really rude.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Ugh, my Mother-In-Law was hording all of our centerpiece buckets at the end of the night.  We had explain to her that we just rented those buckets and they had to be returned to our florist.  I think she was kinda embarrassed when we pulled them out of her car, but they weren’t ours!  Never mind her explanation on how she planned on getting ten giant metal buckets into her suitcase for the plane ride home.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

For real?

Dress or no, I’m afraid I’ve have to body check anyone I see carrying off a centerpiece…

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That really stinks. I think it’s weird that people would take something when there’s not a cute little note telling them they can take one or raffle it off.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Floral centerpieces are almostly always taken home. Before the budget-friendly bride came into full force, people assumed you paid for your 15 or so glass vases and they were free to take the centerpiece. I’d assign 2 important wedding members (FMIL & Mom, maybe a cousin or a bridesmaid?) to make sure to keep an eye out for you! You might even want to put a sticker on the bottom of each one (if they’re opaque) saying “This is rented, if found please return….”

Good luck!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Actually, that’s pretty standard at every bar/bat mitzvah and wedding I’ve ever been too…I took the centerpiece of the wedding I went to a few weeks ago! I think if you DON’T want people to take them, make your bridesmaids and groomsmen and parents get the word out to guests to make sure they’re still around after your wedding….Conversely, my centerpieces are very low-key, so I’m going to encourage guests to TAKE them home!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve said this on other similar threads, but I HATE it when people try to get me to take centerpieces home! It happens at almost every single wedding I go to and it’s usually the MOB trying to pawn them off. I’ve usually just traveled very far and am staying in a hotel – what the heck am I going to do with a centerpiece?? Plus, I’m also on my way out to the ‘after party’. I mean, just because I’m a girl people assume I want nothing more than to take home some leftover flowers!

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