Post # 1
I believe Miss Buttons posted about having centrepieces made with vases she was hoping to use in her home after the wedding, and somebody commented that there likely wouldn’t be any left, as guests will assume the centre pieces can be taken.
I’m planning on using antique silver teapots and serving ware that were passed down from my grandma and some pieces my aunt has collected over the years as vessels for our centrepieces, and it never even occurred to us that people would take the centre pieces without being told that they could!
Did anyone have this issue at their wedding? If so, what might be a polite way to point out that we do not want the centre pieces to be taken?
Post # 3
put a sticker under the arrangement on the table that says “please put me back down :P”?
I have never has this issue, but I would not want to loose those heirlooms either
Post # 4
Haha, yeah, we were talking about it tonight, and had some pretty impolite ways to make it clear. We thought some sort of alarm or something, or weighted booby trap Indiana Jones style. haha
But realistically, we thought a sticker under the centrepiece might be the best option. I wouldn’t want any of our guests to feel embarassed, so it’s mostly what to write on it. “please do not take the centrepieces” seems kind of presumptuous that that’s what’s going on, but I can’t really think of any other reason most guests might be picking it up.
Post # 5
I recently went to a wedding and was shocked when the DJ said , please take centerpieces with you. I have never heard of this policy. Our DOC says it is a growing trend and YOU have to otherwise state they are not for “give away”….
we’re working on that ….
for we are renting vases
Post # 6
I can’t imagine that someone would just take them if they weren’t told that they were allowed to, I know that some couples give their centrepieces away to the person who has the closest birthday or wedding anniversary to their day. But I agree with the other posters – if you’re concerned then I would place a good sized sticker underneath the piece saying “Please Leave Me Here” or something along those lines.
Post # 7
I don’t really want to have to make an announcement that’s like… please don’t take the centrepieces. So it’s more a matter of NOT being told not to, and guests assuming they can.
Post # 8
Myabe just put a note on them that explains where they came from and stuff, then maybe they would get the hint that they are important to you so don’t take thme!!!!
Post # 9
pass the word around to the dominate women in both families (mothers, granmothers & a couple aunts) to start with. They will keep their eyes open and be able to politely explain why the CPs are to be left.
also, if you are using a planner of DOC, they would be able to make sure non get taken.
Post # 10
We’re also using old silver teapots and candlesticks as our centrepieces, but I’ve been raiding my local thrift shops and picking them up for about $4/piece. Maybe you could try picking some up for cheap rather than risk losing family heirlooms. Centrepieces are a common giveaway, and although I would never take one without it being announced “Person with the closest birthday at your table gets the centrepiece” or whatever, I wouldn’t be surprised if someone took one. I know at a wedding I was at last year they never “offically” gave away the centrepieces and I was confused about whether guests were supposed to take them or what “etiquette” was. They were pretty! LOL!
Post # 11
I would do it via word of mouth. Make sure the dominant family members pass the word around!
Post # 12
I would let them know via word of mouth. Make sure the dominant family members pass the word around!
Post # 13
Why not highlight that they are heirlooms? I think that would make a lovely way to name your tables! You can do cute names, and only an idiot would take something labeled an heirloom. Like:
Table #1 is Grandma’s Christmas Best
Table #2 is Aunt Becky’s Victorian Delight
Table #3 is Grandma’s Comfort Tea
Post # 14
We’re hoping our guests will take the centerpieces. My only concern is with the bridesmaids bouquets. The florist is providing the vases for them to rest in for free, and we’re going to use them (and the bouquets) as part of the decor for the cocktail reception. I’m thinking I might make ribbons with the ladies names on them to convey “these are not for you to take home” – otherwise if the vases go missing, I have to pay the florist for them.
Post # 15
Definately ask the DOC to spread the word to the banquet manager and staff. The staff is usually the ones that can stop guests from walking out as the DOC is long gone by the time you eat dinner…The staff can nicely say that you’ve requested to keep your centerpieces because of sentimental value…and the idea of certain family members spreading the word will help!
Post # 16
I like taking centerpieces, if they’re available, but never just assume that I can. I always presume that the centerpieces are rented or what-not, unless given the OK by the bride or bridal party.
I would say that if you think people are going to take them, tell your DOC (if you have one) or bridesmaids to keep their eyes open for guests with sticky fingers, so they can go and personally explain to them that the centerpieces aren’t available to take.