(Closed) Guests that actually show up?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You really need to draw the line with Fiance or tell him that if he wants to add more people, then he needs to take others off the list (like not putting new clothes in your closet without removing the same amount for charity!). You need to talk to him about the budget and how important it is to stay within it, especially if this is your mom’s bank account we’re talking about, otherwise he’s going to be responsible for paying the difference. These people he’s adding, are they people you know too? I think you should make some delineations about what warrants an invite. For instance, one of my requirements is that I’ve had a meal with these people and they’ve been to my house within the last year. 

We invited 170 people or somewhere around there, and between all our Yes’s and if all our unresponded were yes, we’d be somewhere around 145. 150 was my magic number, so I’m relieved to say the least!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I know EXACTLY how you feel! I only wanted about 100 people, and we are at 150, not by choice. Fiance parents have a lot of friends and so does my parents which they want to be there. And I understand that. But the higher the guest count, the high price for not only food, but everything else!!! I believe out of the 150 I have, only about 100 will show (if that) I do have a lot of out of state family that I do not think will make the trip. Hopefully you will have the same case. And just think, you are going to have a lot of people who will say they “want to come” and “hope they are invited” but usually wont show.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

t’s understandable to not want kids at your wedding. I sure don’t, so I have to make a hard decision to invite all of them, or none of them. I really just don’t want a handful. But not inviting the kids could also possibly mean that some of those people wont show up. (Can’t find a babysitter or for whatever reason)

Good luck to you and hopefully you don’t over exceed what you expect!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@aubrav: Hang on, these are people he waits on, not like servers or other coworkers?! Waiting on someone since 1991 is lovely and all, but clearly there’s a huge boundary between work and homelife! At your wedding you should be surrounded by the people you both love and who have shared important moments in your relationship and life together. I can’t imagine you guys have that kind of a relationship with his patrons. It’s wonderful they feel such affection for each other, but I can’t identify with wanting to bring those people to my wedding!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I can’t remember where I heard this, but I remember someone telling me to plan on approximately 20% of the guests to rsvp no (might have been the wedding coordinator at my venue).  I think each wedding is different though.  In looking at my own guest list, I’d be surprised if we have more than 10% no’s…. I’m pretty sure the majority of people invited are planning on showing up.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@aubrav: Awww your FI’s customer’s sound really really sweet. That is really lovely that he’s developed a good relationship with them and that they consider him (and by extension you) so close. He must be a really great guy! Just remember to have the wedding you can afford. I know it’s really hard to know where to draw the line, but if you don’t, it’s going to get out of control. I feel guilty a lot for not inviting someone I’ve known since childhood or whatever, but then I remember that I haven’t seen that person in like 5 years and the occasional FB chat doesn’t constitute a wedding invitation! LOL! Stay with what you’re comfortable with and keep your fingers crossed for No’s 😉

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

hmm;

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t have any good advice except for gently put your foot down.  We invited about 130 and have 106 coming… so hopefully, thats decent odds for you!

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We invited 142 and ended up with 81… just saying….  maybe we’re not that popular…

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just wanted to say hi to a fellow Louisvillian 🙂

As for your question we invited 145 we’re at 74 Yeses/7 Nos and 64 outstanding.

HOWEVER when we went thru out list of people yet to RSVP we figure we’ll have around 128 – it’s totally freaking me out because I only wanted 100 and was prepared for 120.

I’d say don’t over-invite much more than you want to plan for. I’d say if you want 100-110 then only invite 130 max. Of course, you know best if you have a lot of guests who may be unlikely to attend…just be prepared for the max.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It actually could be agood chance! We invited 213 people and we have 132 who are coming to our wedding! That is 81 people that RSVPed no!!

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