(Closed) Guests that just don’t quite get it

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh geeze LOL! What a pain. I feel your frustration!

Post # 4
3252 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Lmao!! That is to much!! I’m so sorry.

Post # 5
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

lol yeah it is kind of like which would be worse… them show up and not be paid for or them not show up and you waste your money on them? both routes suck… i always think when someone responds in a very annoying way that i still have to remain polite about that these are definitely people that have not planned a wedding before or that they will understand when their day comes to plan.

Post # 6
1816 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

At least it sounds like their heart was in the right place, but their head…not so much. πŸ™‚

Post # 7
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Oh my goodness. That doesn’t help AT ALL!

Can you do a follow up phone call, politely requesting a REAL answer?

Post # 8
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010


Now you have to play follow up closer to the RSVP time! Ugh that’s annoying!

Post # 9
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Maybe they really want to be there and are having trouble getting a sitter or getting time off of work.

Post # 11
15 posts
  • Wedding: May 2010

This is something I’m completely sympathic too because I work on the weekends and not everyone has a Monday- Friday job. So sometimes you don’t know for a while if you are going to get the time off. At the same time I understand its still horribly frustrating. 

Post # 12
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

hahaha oh noo! πŸ™ what i don’t get about people is, you’re giving them plans way in advance so more than likely they have nothing planned and if they did it can’t be that important if they don’t remember so there shouldn’t be a problem RSVP’ing the correct way. lol I hope you don’t get any more RSVP’s like that person!

Post # 13
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ahahah good laugh! I’m dreading having to hunt down people for their response!

Post # 14
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

That’s pretty funny!  I think the follow up idea is good.  But maybe you should let them know that you will need a definite answer by (whatever date) and that if they say yes, you’ll have to pay for the food, so if they didn’t show up it would put you out.  Sometimes people need the obvious stated!

Post # 15
5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh my goodness, I don’t get what people are thinking.  So, are they thinking they can just RSVP “just in case” and if they don’t show up it’s no big deal?  If so, boy are they wrong, I can’t believe people don’t realize how much money you lose when they say they are showing up and they don’t!

Post # 16
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was totally thinking of blogging a guest cost break-down sometime. Not on my “professional” blog but on the “personal” one.  I just started it but I’ve always been amazed at how many people just don’t show! A friend of mine had an entire family of 6 no-show! No reason, just didn’t come.  Happens all the time…. Almost every wedding I shoot has 1-2 empty tables πŸ™

Which is why, I would probably follow up and then if they’re still wishy washy I wouldn’t include them. If they show you’ll have enough food, if they don’t… well, that’s 2 less people you told your caterer πŸ™‚ I would just make sure that you’d have the 2 seats if they do come. i.e. the last table has 6 of the 8 seats filled. of 4 of 8 etc…

Of course, I should add a disclaimer that there are times that everyone DOES show up and that would be the best for you πŸ™‚ That means you didn’t have to waste money.

We’ll see, I do really want to blog and break down wedding costs per guest, they just don’t think about that stuff!

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