Post # 1
On Monday we sent out our STD postcards and people already received them on Tuesday! We’re so excited, but people are calling and texting saying they’re confused with our “invitation.” It clearly states that what we sent is a STD (on the front it in all caps “SAVE THE DATE!”) and it’s in big bold letters that “Formal invitations to follow,” but many think that’s the invite and they don’t know how to respond to it. But, Save-The-Date Cards are somewhat uncommon in my circle, so I think it’s just throwing people off.
Did anyone else experience their guests getting confused with the STD?
Post # 3
well good for you to bring it into your circle!
They will figure iit out =] just be patient and expalin and they might get it more after recieiving the fromal invite!
Post # 4
I think this is very common. We had people e-mailing and calling to RSVP when they got our STD’s. We just explained that they were STD’s and that when they received our formal invitation, they could respond then. Besides, the STD’s went out 7 months before the wedding – plans change! Some people are just not clear about “wedding stuff.”
Post # 5
Yes my guests are calling and asking questions thinking our Save-The-Date Cards are our invitations… They are a bit uncommon in our circle but since Fiance and I are getting married on a holiday wkend I thought they were necessary plus I’m tired of people constantly asking for the date of the wedding even though I have already told them literally a THOUSAND times! I just explain (over and over again) that they are save the dates, not the actually invitations and people are still confused about it. In my head, though, an invitation would actually give info about the ceremony and reception in addition to the date, so how could they get the two confused???
Post # 6
Yup some of ourguests were pretty confused. We just explained that we wanted to inform everyone of when thewedding was taking place since there is travel involved and they can expect another invite in the mail in a few months
Post # 7
My family is used to Save the Date cards, but my FI’s family had never heard of such a thing. Once my Fiance explained to those who were confused why we sent such a thing, it was well-accepted, by all but one particularly judgemental Future Sister-In-Law.
A few weeks if grief & confusion was worth it though, since we didn’t stress that out invites went out 8 weeks before and friends & family had enough information to schedule our wedding far in advance.
Post # 8
I think this is quite common. My DH’s family thought it was the invitation too as in their culture, people who needed to fly in would be told verbally ahead of time and then you get the actual invitation. We had to give a lesson on STD to DH’s family, though I imagine the likelihood of them encountering another STD is pretty low.
Post # 9
people aren’t used to Save-The-Date Cards. it wil confuse some,
Post # 10
hmm strange.. I would just let them be confused.. they will read the cards again then finally see that is says ” fomral invite to come”
Post # 11
We are sending Save the Dates because of the holiday weekend as well. I am doing them as postcards so people will not be confused hopefully.
I don’t know if his SIL sent out Save-The-Date Cards for their wedding last year but its more than likely something my side of the family as never seen. Hopefully they won’t be too confused. My cousin is in another wedding and was saying she sent out her Save-The-Date Cards a year in advance for a weekend that isn’t a holiday weekend and her mother and their family was utterly confused. I would be too if I had received one that far in advance (altough Fiance wants to send them out like now! I told him oh no thats way too early.)
I will be anticipating a confused response now based on this thread lol but at least I’ll be prepared!!
Post # 12
This happened to me too, I couldn’t believe it lol. Dont worry about it, just tell them that it’s only a save the date and give them an idea of when they’ll get their invitation. Hey, at least they responded!
Post # 13
This happened to me too!! Lol, I just let them know the invitation will be coming closer to the wedding date.
Post # 14
Oh man, reading this thread freaks me out a little! Do people really not “get” Save the Dates?! I would have thought “Formal Invitation to Follow” would have been clear.