(Closed) Guests wearing different dresses for ceremony and reception?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Have you worn a different outfit for the ceremony and reception as a guest?

    Yes -- I always change for the reception

    Yes -- in certain cases

    I never have, but I wouldn't be against it.

    I never have, and I don't think you should.

    No -- too much effort for someone else's event

    No -- not enough time

    Other (please explain below!)

  • Post # 17
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I never knew people changed clothes from ceremony to reception until I had my wedding. My wedding was at the same location and people still changed clothes so I guess theres nothing wrong with it, I just wouldn’t do it myself. I think more people changed than didn’t change at my wedding including everyone in my bridal party! I was a little confused at first hahaha.

    Post # 19
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I almost always change for the reception if the ceremony is not right before the reception.

    Post # 20
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    10713 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @Ms_Pinoy:  yeah I didn’t either I was surprised. They all also left early =/

    Post # 21
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I have certainly changed before. I have been to weddings with, like, 5-6 hour gaps (ugh) and so have even gone home after a morning or afternoon ceremony, put on my comfy clothes and lounged around (even had a nap) and then put on a different outfit for the dinner/reception.

    I would find it odd to be told what to wear though, unless I was in the bridal party!

    Post # 22
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Yes I’ve changed outfits before. Usually I change if the ceremony is In the day time and the reception is in the evening. Especially if reception is black tie.

    Post # 23
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Ms_Pinoy:  i have changed attire between ceremony and reception when i feel it necessary.  in your case, i would definitely change your apparel.  of course, only if time allows.

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I did. But it was for an Indian Wedding. 

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Considering the situation I would think two outfits would be great.  You could wear a church appropriate outfit and then get decked out for the big party for the new year.  I actually had two male guests change for my wedding.  Both wore conservative suits to our Catholic (full mass) wedding and one more a flashy white suit for the reception and the other wore an African outfit for the reception, which is more common for him to do.  I think it was great.  They were very respectful of the church and of our wedding but still were able to show their personality at the reception.  I say go for it if you can. 🙂

    Post # 27
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @Ms_Pinoy:  yeah… I think I learned a lot from my wedding lol. No one cares as much as you do and all that. I was hurt  for a little while about all that but it faded away. 

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    we always wear two different outfits. one business casual, the other formal. It is just what our families do. it is nice to get all dressed up for the evening. :

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @Ms_Pinoy:  Hm. In most cases, I’d avoid changing, but in your case, it sounds like you could do it. But might it be simpler to wear the gold sparkly dress to the church, but layer it with some leggings or tights, and a pretty sweater or blazer or tunic/jacket thing over it. And in the break between the ceremony and the reception, all you’d have to do would be to take off the sweater/blazer and, if you want bare legs for the reception, the tights/leggings. Wearing a few things over the dress for the reception would normalize the gold sparklyness, keep you warmer, and modest, in the church, and minimize inconvenience and the potential for seeming odd by changing outfits.

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s pretty standard in my circle to change when there is a big gap between ceremony and reception.  It’s totally fine!

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’d change.

    I’m not a big fan of GAP WEDDINGS, but realize that they do exist for a variety of reasons (most often having to do with the Church availability)

    When Mr TTR and I go to a Wedding (even if it is one here in town), we are more often than not to book a Hotel Room… especially so if the Reception happens at a Hotel (we just get a room in the the same Hotel).  In that way, we never have to worry about partying too much / Drinking & Driving.

    I like the convenience of being able to slip off to our room if need be… and as the night progresses, I’ve been known for example to go back to my room to change into more comfy shoes… so I can tear up the dance floor some more.

    With a GAP WEDDING… I’d certainly be booking a room, and using the “down time” to relax there vs just hanging out somewhere (like a Mall, Bar etc) to pass the time.  And YES in this case, I’d be using the opportunity to do a “costume” change as well.

    Hope this helps,

     

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