(Closed) Guests wearing different dresses for ceremony and reception?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Have you worn a different outfit for the ceremony and reception as a guest?

    Yes -- I always change for the reception

    Yes -- in certain cases

    I never have, but I wouldn't be against it.

    I never have, and I don't think you should.

    No -- too much effort for someone else's event

    No -- not enough time

    Other (please explain below!)

  • Post # 33
    3751 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would definitely either change, or do what was suggested above with a blazer or something to tone it down during the ceremony. All I can think of is a gold sequin dress!!! And how would I tone that down at the ceremony? I’d probably change in between, but a long structure black jacket or sweater would help! Good luck, sounds like a blast to me!!

    Post # 34
    6255 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I have never done this, and have never heard of it. I dress for the most conservative location, and if the bride doesn’t like it, it’s her problem for not having ceremony and reception at places that jived better with one another. For example, I think if she wants New Years Eve attire for the reception, she probably should have had the ceremony at a hotel ballroom or someplace like that. If a guest WANTS to change, that’s one thing, but they should never be put in a position in which they feel obligated to.

    But I am one of those people who believes a bride’s power to limit the dress choices of attendees should never extend past the bridal party.

    Post # 35
    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I always change if there is a long break between the church and the reception. It doesn’t usually make sense to wear an evening gown to an afternoon ceremony. I do remember wearing my reception dress to an afternoon chuch ceremony and I felt out of place – I was definitely overdressed for chuch, but fit in perfectly at the reception. 

    Post # 36
    3977 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Sounds funny but I can see where you’re coming from. I personally wouldn’t do it, but with such a big gap and with her request I think it would work. Go for it.

    Post # 37
    351 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I am lazy so I never liked the idea of changing twice for a wedding, but I did for the most recent wedding I went to. Church was very early, and a very large gap until the reception. I just could not fathom wearing such a dressy dress for so long. So I wore a simpler dress to the church and changed at the hotel I was staying at before the reception. Again, only works if you have the place/time to do so.

    Post # 38
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I did this when there was a substantial gap between the (church) ceremony and reception.

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