(Closed) Guests wearing white at a wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should guests be allowed to wear white to a wedding?
    No - It's impolite. : (27 votes)
    68 %
    Yes : (5 votes)
    13 %
    Depends on what the dress looks like. : (7 votes)
    18 %
    Other - explain. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    i’d be okay with a dress that was mostly white with a bit of colour on it, or a pattern or something, but i don’t think i’d want a guest to wear all white. that’s my job.

    Post # 4
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    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    A dress with a colour+white pattern – totally fine. A white/ivory/cream dress? Not okay. There are so many other colours to wear, there’s no reason at all the wear the bride’s colour even if she wouldn’t be offended. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    1325 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’d gut them like a kipper!

    j/k

    Honestly, this is one that would bother me severely. A white dress with a pattern on it is fine…but an all white dress would really get my goat. Sure, there isn’t going to be any confusion as to who the bride is, but I’ve always thought that wearing a white dress on your wedding day was something special. I see it as a special honor reserved for the bride.

    Post # 6
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    5654 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’m a no white to a wedding kinda gal… Infact I was kinda surprised when our Pastors wife wore a white and off white dress, I guess just above the knee.. the off white was a kinda lacy material.. idk but it was really pretty and it just threw me that it was WHITE. And then another friend wore an all white form fitting dress…. I’ve always thought it just to be kinda tacky to do I guess… I got over it though… had much better things to be focused on 😉

    Post # 7
    Member
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Frankly, there are a million other colors to choose from, pick one of those! While obviously everyone is going to know who the bride is, I think it’s kind of rude to wear an all white/ivory dress to a wedding. If there are more colors or details on it then it’s probably fine, but an all white dress? Unnecessary, in my opinion. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Only if they want people to make snide comments about their lack of good taste.

    Post # 9
    Member
    11390 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Ive seen somone wear a white strapless flowy dress all the way to the ground to a wedding, and kinda thought to myself is she trying to take the spotlight? My mom wore a white cardigan over top of her shirt and dress pants but that was fine. Anything like that would be fine I think. But a white gown I think is just a big no no.

    Post # 10
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    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    Doesn’t bother me at all, unless it’s a wedding dress.

    And, yes, looking at my wedding pics, someone did wear a white lace dress to mine. I wouldn’t even have noticed, except she was someone my husband and I went to high school with (neither of us were close to her) and we hadn’t seen her in years. She asked if she could come to our wedding when my husband bumped into her at a fast food joint, My husband told her OK ( we did a buffet, so that didnt bother me either). I just thought it odd someone I barely knew would want to attend and that’s what made her picture stand out to me….not the dress.

    As for others making snide remarks, I honestly hope that my guests would be too busy enjoying themselves to even notice, or care, what someone else was wearing

    Post # 11
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    1602 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I agree with a previous poster – a patterned dress, or one that is maybe half and half is fine, but nothing all white.

    I actually went with my little sister and she found a dress that just the bust is white, and the rest is white and pink – it’s so freaking adorable on her that I didn’t care anymore.

    Post # 12
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    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yeah, there are lots of other colors to choose from, but honestly, I’d rather someone wear a white dress than wear jeans. I’m more interested in the appropriate “formality” of what people wear than the colors, if that makes sense. Not that I’m having a black tie wedding…watch, someone will wear jeans at my wedding… 🙂

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