(Closed) Guests who didn't give a wedding gift??

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
2701 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Actually, I would hold off on sending a thank you for a few weeks.  Sometimes people ship gifts AFTER the wedding, so you might still be getting one.  I’ve definitely ordered gifts online the day of the wedding or the day after and the gift gets delievered about a week after the wedding (and I also didn’t leave a card at the reception – just put a note in with the gift).

If you don’t get anything by the end of July, then I’d send a thank you for attending.

Post # 18
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@MadameTussaud:  I agree.

Guests are not obligated to give you a gift.  Thank them for attending.  They loved you enough to celebrate with you on your wedding day!

Post # 19
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Imhisbride:  Of course. Just thank them for being spending the day with you.

Post # 20
3360 posts
Sugar bee

It is not correct to send a thank you for coming note. They should be thanking you for your hospitality. Sending a thank you for coming note can be seen as fishing for a gift.

You have already thanked them for coming verbally at the reception (hopefully), and by providing a lovely evening of hospitality. That is the entire purpose of the reception. You done offer a lovely evening of food, drink and dancing to show off, you do it to thank your guests for coming to celebrate and witness your marriage.

Post # 21
826 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@andielovesj:  You took the words right out of my mouth! I do not think a thank you card is necessary for simply attending the wedding- the thank you is the food, music and drink!

Post # 22
48 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

We kind of had the opposite – we got gift vouchers in our card box with no name on. We worked out who it might be from but can’t ask them in case they just didn’t get anything :S We sent thank you cards to everyone whether they brought a gift or not – so whoever got us the vouchers probably thinks we are rude because we didn’t thank them for it!

Post # 23
1445 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I didn’t send a thank you card to those who didn’t get us a gift or a card…I thanked everyone for coming at the wedding. I’m sending thank you cards to thank people for the gifts received.

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