Post # 1
I’m going to have several guests who will not know anyone else at the wedding. I’m trying to figure out a seating chart, and all of them will fill one table perfectly. Is this a good idea? The other option is to spread them around at different tables but I wonder if that will just make them feel more awkward. On the other hand, lumping all of them together at one table may make them feel out of place as well. Personality-wise I think they’d all get along with each other at the same table so that isn’t an issue.
Anyone have any recommendations?
Post # 3
I would spread them out and put them with someone you know will not be shy and carry the conversation.
Post # 4
Yes! Def put them with people who have no problems making new friends. We all know people like that. The fun table. I’d seat them with the fun peeps at the fun table!
Post # 5
if they’d get along i think that’s fine. i would just put them with people their same age, if they have similar interests, etc. if you can. seating is hard!
Post # 6
I think it depends on the group of “outsiders” personalities. If most of them are fairly outgoing, I’d say one table for all of them is fine. I’d worry about sticking one of them with, say, a group of co-workers who will talk about nothing but work and gossip all night, or college friends catching up, etc.
Post # 7
I agree with lilyfaith. Spread them out but don’t put them on tables that all have a common interest that will exclude them anyways.
Post # 8
Yeah, like I said in the original post they take up an entire table by themselves so they’d have to be spread between a bunch of tables. I think it would work out, but I definitely run out of “fun” tables and into the “friends catching up” or “older family members” tables quickly. Seating IS hard!
Post # 9
I don’t know, I would actually be tempted to put them all at a table together! If other people at other tables know each other, they will likely end up feeling awkward and out of the loop, even if they are outgoing.
I read a suggestion on here once of putting little games on the tables to assist guests in getting to know each other. I am not sure how formal your wedding is, but this could be a great way for the “guestless” table to get to know each other. They will proabably be chatting away by the end of the night!
Post # 10
I prefer the idea of puting them all together, unless you can chose what I think is the best option:
Seat them next to someone who is outgoing, and actually ask the outgoing person to befriend them. I personally enjoy talking to new people, and if bride X asked me to make friend Y feel welcome, I would be glad to/feel honored.
Post # 11
Seating is hard!
I’m pretty lucky. about 90% of everybody will know everybody at our wedding. And each table there is the fun table (they’re all kinda like me..will talk your ear off if given the chance, but are friendly)!
Plus, imho, if there is a good signature drink or cocktail, that also relaxes people and lets them ease into the evening.
How about a game they could all play? I’ve seen a few at weddings.
Anybody have suggestions for ice breaking games?
Post # 12
Are you having some type of meet and greet for out-of-town guests prior to the wedding? That would be a great opportunity for them to get comfortable with each other. I think they will be fine at a single table if they get the opportunity to meet prior. Not saying you should do that for ALL your guests…but this table worth of people seem to be a special case.
Post # 13
That’s a really good idea! Depending on how seating works out I may try that.
Sadly no… most people will be arriving right before the wedding, and no one (including us!) really lives in the area. We just didn’t have the budget for another get-together. I might try and encourage them to carpool from the hotel to the venue or something.
And yeah, I’d love to hear other people’s suggestions for games! Most of the stuff I’ve seen is crossword puzzles and other stuff to keep one person entertained, not stuff to get everyone talking.
Post # 14
As an adult, it’s my responsibility to be able to go outside my comfort zone and socialize with others I don’t know. It’s not my place at all to ask the couple if I can bring a guest to occupy myself with. Other people I know have done the same thing in situations where they don’t know anyone either. They have to bite the bullet and socialize or else mark on the rsvp that they will be staying home and thus completely miss out on having any fun. Unless they are they are the type that is prone to panic attacks and meltdowns around strangers, it really shouldn’t be that big a deal for the majority of folks because you can’t spend your entire life inside your comfort bubble and expect that others cater to that.