(Closed) Guests with titles??? Need help.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

We had a situation where the wife had the title and the husband did not. Our calligrapher handled all of the ettiquette rules for us, and according to the calligrapher, whomever has the title goes first. If a PhD prefers to be referred to ad “Dr.”, that’s fine. If they prefer not to, then there is no need to refer to them as such. Likewise, if a lawyer presers to be addressed as mr. E. Smith, Esq., then use that. but if Mr. E. Smith never uses that in his signature, then there is no need to add the “Esq.” to his invitation.

Post # 4
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We have about 25 doctors invited of all sorts of combination.

Husband & Wife doctors were addressed as The Drs. Last Name

Husband Doctor, Wife Non Doctor were addressed as Dr. and Mrs. Last Name

Husband Non-Doctor, Wife Doctor..this one is tricky.  Etiquette says put the wife’s name first as the Doctor (i.e. the person with the title goes first)… but that just sounded weird.  We wound up doing Mr. Husband First Name Last Name and Dr. Wife First Name Last Name.

We have some PhDs in process but nobody done yet.

For the escort cards, we will be putting Dr. titles.  Went to a wedding recently and one of their escort cards didn’t have Dr. and it was a big to-do.

Post # 5
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

2. Outer envelope: Dr. Sarah Smith and Mr. James Stewart

Inner envelope: Dr. Smith and Mr. Stewart

3. If they are considered medical doctors by another country, but have taken a different profession here, I would still use “Dr.” as doctors carry their titles throughout their lives; meaning that for a retired doctor you would still use “Dr.”

4. This would be the same as the other rules for doctors.

5. At social functions engineers and lawyers do not need special titles, they are just standard Mr., Ms. or Mrs.

6. Etiquette says that yes, you should use the proper titles for your guests on your place cards; however, at a casual wedding you could get away with no titles at all. In either instance, you shouldn’t use the wrong title. 

This is the most extensive site I’ve found on the topic of addressing. http://newportmanners.com/default.asp

Post # 8
7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Everyone has pretty much covered this, so all I will say is that I would say “Dr and Mr” for a lady Doctor/PhD and a husband with no title. it just sounds better.

Post # 9
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Brielle:  Ha — was just about to post that link. Love Crane’s. 

Post # 10
11356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@bythebook:  Me, too!! Love them! Crane’s “Blue Book” on wedding etiquette was my constant companion while I was engaged, and Crane printed my engraved invitation suite, informals, and wedding programs!

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