- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Hey there! This is my first time posting…ironically, it’s not about my own wedding, but about my future stepdaughter’s wedding. I am freaking out a bit and just need some reassurance.
My Fiance is from England, and we’ve been together two and a half years. I don’t know his stepdaughter incredibly well yet, as she also lives in England (we live in the US), but we get along very well, and I know she was happy when we got engaged at Christmas. She is getting married in June, and we are going over for the wedding. She’s very laidback, and I don’t know that this is going to be a terribly traditional wedding, but I still don’t want to do anything to cause stress for her, the groom, or my FI’s ex-wife. They had an amiable divorce over 10 years ago, but she has never met any of the women he dated since they divorced. I don’t know that she’s in a relationship right now. I have NO idea what to expect when we’re introduced, or what to say other than the usual pleasantries. I would be very surprised if she really wanted to engage me in conversation, but I think a lot of other people don’t think about it, and I usually end up left alone in a painfully awkward situation where I have to make conversation with someone who probably wouldn’t normally interact with me. :/
I’m also worried about how to dress…I know I’m supposed to not do anything to upstage anyone, but it’s hard when I don’t know all of the details! I know the ex-wife is wearing green and cream, but I don’t want to hound my future SD about the style, etc. So I’m thinking a floral print for myself, maybe. And then there’s the whole hat issue! I’m not sure if I should wear one…and if I do, apparently there’s an etiquette to it. The MOG is supposed to wear one that’s smaller than the MOB’s hat, in which case I should wear one that’s smaller than the MOG, right? So should I wear a fascinator? Or nothing? UGH, this is so confusing!
Wardrobe issues aside, I just want it to go smoothly. I am worried about it being a sort of lonely wedding, as I won’t know many people there (besides my FI’s daughter, I will also know my FI’s son and his girlfriend, and my FI’s best friend and his wife – who is good friends of my FI’s ex-wife, so I expect her to be otherwise engaged). However, I can handle that, and it’s not about me anyway…I’m just hoping to stay out of the way, offer support where I can, and avoid any drama!
Anyway, sorry for the long post. If anyone has been in a situation like this and can offer any advice or tell me what it was like, I would definitely appreciate it!