We had some (very minor) turf battles. Here’s where we were considering and what we thought about it:
Southern Maryland — Where my immediate family lives. Gorgeous. Perfect for a beautiful outdoor wedding. Only 1-2 hours from DC or Baltimore, so not horrendously hard for people to get to. Most guests would be coming from the northeast part of the country, and flying or driving would be OK. He wasn’t as into it. Negative: not as many hotels down where we live, but I’m sure we would have figured something out.
Philly suburbs — Where my fiance’s family is from, and where a lot of his extended family lives as well. His sister got married in the area a couple years ago, and while it was a gorgeous wedding, I felt it would (kind of sort of) copying, and I wanted our wedding to be definitely unique.
Philadelphia — I loved the idea of a city wedding, but immediately we figured it would be too expensive for us.
NJ — I’m from Princeton originally, which is gorgeous but also has the potential to be expensive. He has ties to the Jersey shore, which would be nice, but neither of us wanted a beach wedding, and again, I had a sense of it being "his" turf more than mine.
Louisville, KY — Where we’re living now. None of our family is anywhere nearby, but we love the city. It’s a little less expensive than planning on the east coast, and we are forcing everyone to come visit us and explore a city that they probably would not otherwise ever visit. Plus, I’m a medical student, so I don’t have a lot of free time, and it’s easier to plan the wedding from where I am living, rather than planning long-distance, although long-distance planning is definitely not impossible. We’re inconveniencing both of our families equally in terms of travel, so it’s fair 🙂
I know that’s really specific to us, but maybe hearing someone else’s story will help. Jilian’s breakdown is pretty much all-encompassing!