(Closed) Guilt over purchasing things.

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m like this. We have some financial goals that we need to meet (NWR).

I really need new shoes. At least my clothes fit (or are slightly too big) and I can probably get another year out of them. I might buy a new shirt for our Epics.

And yet for all that… I know I’d save money if I stopped buying coffee in the morning. But I have yet to do that.

Post # 4
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2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

OMG! I just bought myself 2 pairs of shoes for work over the weekend and I am still agonizing over it. Honestly, I only had like one or two real good work shoes and they were from HIGH SCHOOL. It was time. And yet, unless whatever I have is literally falling apart I don’t replace it. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.

I desperately need new bras. I haven’t bought one in years and the ones I have are so worn out and yucky. Blah….

Anyways, haha…. yes I know exactly how you feel! ๐Ÿ˜€

I just try to remind myself that it’s okay to buy shoes for work and a new bra once in a while.

Post # 5
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351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am right there with you. I need new bras and some underwear BADLY!

But I really don’t want to spend the money. I’d rather put it towards our house fund, future eletric bill, etc. But, I’ll have to eventually…I figure I’ll suck it up and get it done next pay check; or wait until Thanksgiving and stock up during black Friday. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am the same exact way, and FH is even the same way sometimes too. A lot of the reason why we do not spend money on ourselves is because we do not have much money to spend on ourselves, especially with the wedding just a few weeks away. We even feel bad if we go out to dinner or somethng like that. I hope one day I can feel better about it because I really need some new clothes and shoes, and bras ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow you are such a responsible selfless person!!! Makes me feel like a selfish bitch lol. Just try to remind yourself that you are buying things that you need not extra things or just thing that you want but thing that you actually need and are necessary. Also remember that there is nothing more important to buy then things that you really need and that those things are your priority. I don’t know if this was helpful since I so obviously don’t have the same problem but I hope you will be in some nice new warm and snug clothes this winter!

Post # 10
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620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Rouquine: I know someone who has kids and does that. Why don’t you trying getting some cheap stuff if if you don’t feel comfortable spending a lot there are some really good deals out there just hop on ebay and check out some of the nice stuff you can get for cheap. 

Post # 11
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I feel the exact same way when it comes to buying things! Our account is joint, and as much as I need new work clothes or shoes, I always feel guilty. One thing we’re going to start next payday is getting an “allowance.” I know it sounds childish, but we are going to go through and make a budget, and get a set amount of money to spend on ourselves every paycheck! We were going to do an envelope system (you allot a certain amount for everything from groceries to gas to bills and take out cash after every payday and put it in the corresponding envelope), but instead we are going to count up all our necessary monthly bills, and with the leftover money we will put a certain amount towards savings, and each get a small allowance.

It will probably be 100 dollars a week, and it will be used for anything that is’t necessary. It includes that morning coffee, snack from the vending machine at work if you forgot your lunch, a drink if we decide to go out, etc.. That way, if I want to go out and buy something, I can use my allowance and not feel guilty because I know that every paycheck we are paying our bills, paying off our debt, and putting $500 into savings.. so I deserve a treat with the leftovers! =]

Post # 12
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1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Rouquine: I am totally like that. For the past three years I have needed a fall coat, but haven’t been able to bring myself to buy one… so I go without! Hoodies are my best friend in the fall lol. I hate spending money on myself. It actually makes me feel sick to my stomach if I feel I have spent “too much”. I’m glad I’m not the only one!

Post # 13
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@FutureMrsTimmins:  I snuggled into my fall hoodie-coat this morning! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 14
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16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’m a frugal girl. Even when I had to buy new clothes for my new job right when we got home from our honeymoon, my husband had to force me out the door. There’s so much stuff I need for winter, but not sure if I can bring myself to spend the money!

Post # 16
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m the same way. When Spring/Summer came I had to go get clothes and shoes for work and I put it off for so long. Finally I convinced myself I had enough money and it had to be done. I still felt so guilty when I was paying my bills for the month. I do the same thing when I need to replace hair and makeup supplies, I wait so long that every thing runs out and I have to buy it all at once. I just have so many bills that I feel awful if I spoil myself even a little.

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