(Closed) Guilt over Reception Dress

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Worker bee

I’m in the same boat. My wedding dress is the dress of my dreams but it is an enormous ball gown and difficult to walk in.

I decided to wear it all night though. But mostly because I love it so much I don’t want to get out of it and I wasn’t planning on dancing anyways. If you are planning to dance though, I suggest getting the reception dress and postponing the dances so you can stay in your wedding dress as long as possible.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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legallyblondebride88 :  wear your dress all night. there are PLENTY of brides in ballgowns who have worn them for their receptions and have not been miserable (my sister, for instance). is your dress uncomfortable?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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legallyblondebride88 :  I thought about a reception dress, but I LOVE my wedding dress! It cost a pretty penny, and I doubt I’ll get an opportunity to wear it again. Are you that uncomfortable in the ballgown? I’m nixing the reception dress, but going to have an exit dress :).

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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legallyblondebride88 :  I totally understand those brides that need a second dress because their first wouldn’t be comfortable while walking around, dancing, and sitting but if I had had a ball gown, I definitely would’ve rocked it all night long. That’s just how I feel about wedding dresses. I fell in love with my dress (not a ball gown, but still had a train that needed a bustle) and wore it as long as I could because I knew I would regret spending so much on a dress that I only wore for an hour plus I just really loved it! We didn’t leave our reception until about 1 in the morning so I was glad I got to wear my dress for a good 7 hours. When we left for the hotel I changed into a more comfortable dress. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Those are both beautiful dresses, but your ballgown dress is such a showstopper, I say you make the most out of it! That being said, if it’s worth the extra money to have a backup plan, then go for it. As long as you have the excess in your budget, I say it’s better to be prepared for everything. If that extra dress means you have to cut something else, then cut the dress!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I wore my ballgown all night with no problems. I was comfortable and happy all night in my dress. I think your friend is wrong, you don’t NEED a second dress.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

If you bought the second dress on sale, is returning even an option? Usually you can’t return sale items. If that’s the case you may as well get it hemmed and bring it along just in case you do get uncomfortable. Or change right at the end as a ‘getaway’ dress. Your biggest issue in your ballgown is probably getting hot dancing. I think backup comfort isn’t a bad idea, especially if you’ll wear that dress again? 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I wore a strapless ballgown and wore it through dinner, then changed to a simple, light dress with straps for dancing. I am very glad I changed. Although I wouldn’t really describe the ballgown as uncomfortable, I deifnitely would have been uncomfortable and hot dancing in it. Also, remember that ballgowns are often fitted pretty tightly in the torso to stay up, so after I ate and drank mine felt really tight and that would have gotten very uncomfortable if I had stayed in it dancing for three hours.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wore my large ball gown all night with no issue and was extremely comfortable. Is your dress uncomfortable or difficult to get around in?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

 Are you uncomfortable in your “main” wedding dress? I myself will be wearing an A-line/ballgown; it’s quite big, but I’ve been practicing walking and sitting in it so that I have full control over it at my reception. I’d also be down for doing a few big twirls in it, because I’m a child. ๐Ÿ˜› Can you practice at all with your ballgown? 

As PPs have said, you might want to have a “going-away” dress, and I think that second one suits your purposes. 

 

 

 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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legallyblondebride88 :  I stayed in my ballgown all night but my parents did buy me a very pretty lace dress to change into just in case I was uncomfortable during reception. It wasn’t even a thought of mine to change and I didn’t, I spent all day in my beauty and I don’t regret a thing ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper

 I’m another who wore a fairly heavy satin gown with a train and a  huge veil too.  No problems . I don’t see the need for a reception gown  myself, I mean when  else are you going to be able to swan around in your  WEDDING dress!!  

That   reception dress you posted  is nice  enough , but pales in comparion , so why change ‘down’ , I say ! If you are going to  go out clubbing or something , I can see losing the ballgown , but not  otherwise. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I think as long as when you picked your dress you weren’t instantly uncomfortable (if you were, why pick the dress), then you’ll be fine. I had a pretty heavy dress and my bustle broke so I carried my train, I wore that thing for close to 14 hours in the end. Yes I was glad to take it off but that’s because I was exhausted and wanted to sleep. I was glad that I wore it for the day, especially as throughout the day my husband kept noticing new bits that he liked, he couldn’t take it all in straight away.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

 

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legallyblondebride88 :  I didn’t think of having a backup dress–that’s a good idea. I just plan to wear my ballgown all night and if the pouf gets on my nerves, oh well. It’s my only chance to wear it, I can suck it up, haha. I would ask your mom for her opinion. “Do you think I’ll be able to walk in my gown all night, or should I have a backup reception dress just in case?” See what she says. That would alleviate the guilt of not wearing your gorgeous gown all night if she agrees in having a backup ๐Ÿ™‚

 

You could also have a seamstress take out some layers of pouf (or have them be detachable) so you can just lose some fluff as the night goes on ๐Ÿ™‚

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