Guilty over wedding

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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9613 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

If this is what you and your fiance want that’s all the matters. It’s your wedding. Not your families’ wedding. And it’s your money. It’s quite frankly none of thier business.

Post # 3
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

It’s your wedding bee, the thing I have learned about family and wedding planning is that there is always gonna be someone who doesn’t agree with you and isn’t happy. The bottom line is that it’s your day, and you can decide how you would like it. Years from now you don’t want to look back and regret being pressure into making decisions, its you and your FI’s decision. Don’t be pressured into a wedding that doesn’t feel like yours. 

Post # 4
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1185 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

This is why I shared very little about my wedding planning with my family. I didn’t want to hear it. They didn’t know the budget or most anything else that went into the planning process. 

If you and your Fiance are paying for it, then do what you both want to do and enjoy it!! 

Post # 5
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5 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I honestly feel like I’m reading my own post here. Fiance and I also fell in love with a more pricey venue and we put our deposit down. I’m feeling wedding guilt sometimes bc of his mom. All she said when we told her is “super expensive..get a different venue”. But at the end of the day we didn’t ask her for money and she hasn’t offered any. It’s what we want and have dreamed of!

Post # 6
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8260 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

FutureRosas :  

If you really want to do this  “So now we have decided to wait 2 years before getting married to save up the money” then that’s what you want . It’s the last thing I’d want , but it’s your day and your choice , so clichéd or not ,it’s  no one else’s business really! (though you kind of made it their business when you asked them for money)
 

Post # 7
Hostess
8419 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

I agree with PP’s, it is your wedding so it is up to you, but by going to your family to ask for money you got them involved, and now they are ramming their opinions down your throat.

Post # 9
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160 posts
Blushing bee

It doesn’t have to be their business anymore. When they bring it up, change the subject.

Post # 10
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8813 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

FutureRosas :  They can “demand” anything they want. Doesn’t mean you have to comply. I would just stop talking to them about it. They’ve made it clear they aren’t helping financially, so your spending is none of their business. If anyone asks about the wedding, say you’re planning for 2019 and if they ask why, just say “that’s what works for us.” If anyone is ignorant enough to keep prying, turn it around with “why do you ask?”

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